I just want to die...I feel like an absolute failure and completely alone....what can I do right now?

Question

I just want to say a huge thanks to almost everyone who answered....your messages offerred great advice and helped me through a horrible night...thanks for caring.

Answer 1

The VERY best thing you can do right now, is to write down this phone number: 1-800-suicide (1-800-784-2433)... go offline right now... and call that number. When I wanted to die, I called that number, I got confidential help, and no one judged me or criticized me. They gave me some REAL HELP, and I know they will help you too. I no longer want to die. I have found help.

You can also pray too. Jesus will never fail you. But during the time when I was wanting to die... for some reason I just wasn't praying... so if you feel like you can pray, then pray... and for sure, call that number above too ok? Write it down on your desk, hang it on your wall, call it 50 times in a night if needed... you will talk to a "live" person who cares and knows how to help... these will be the best things you ever did.

Due to the nature of the internet, and the way it is possible for us to "hide" behind our computer screens... it is easy to sign on, post messages, and make "friends" here... but having mostly computer friends makes for a real lonely existence sometimes! It is no wonder you are feeling lonely... after all, you can not see ME, the person who is posting this message to you. I would encourage you to contact a local church pastor or a local counselor who you trust, and let them know how you are feeling. Ask them for help too. They are living, breathing, and you can see them in person.

Hang in there. The people around you in "real life" need you, whether you realize it or not. We folks here on the internet need you too, because your contributions are valuable. And you are not alone. You would be surprised how many other folks feel alone tonight too. So, you are "with" them, in that way. Remember that. You are not alone. God is always there with you. Ask Him to hug you and feel His arms around you because He loves you.

Answer 2

That you were able to ask this question shows that you are not a complete failure. a complete failure would be dead somewhere.

bad things happen, sometimes alot of bad things happen at once, but they will only hurt you if you let them keep you down. You must always remember that nothing stays bad forever.

so back to the question: what can you do RIGHT NOW?


THINK POSITIVE!!!!!!!!

sounds cheesey, but start thinking positivly aboiut the problems you are having. are they really that bad? really? hey, I said think positive!!

seriously, think positive, and look at your problems. what problems can you do something about, what can you not. think hard. tell yourself "I CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIS" because you can.

If after all that, you realize there are something that you can truley do nothing about, FORGET about them. no point crying over spilt milk. worry about the things you can change and not about the things you can't.

as for the being "completley alone" why? Did you do something that upset all your friends? people forgive, and they often forget, wait a day or two and apologize for whatever happend. did they do something to you? tel them how that made you feel. Have no friends? go make some new ones! it sounds hard, but just talk to new people, join a club, volunteer with something.

speaking of volunteering, you should do it. You will meet new people AND do something tha makes a difference. If you volunteer on something (local ambulance, red cross, a homless shelter, or soup kitchen...) then nobody can say that you are a failure, becasue you will be making a positive difference.

I admit that no all of this answer may be helpful to you, but it is my hope that at least some of this will show you that things are not as bad as you think they are, in fact, here is some of a song, follow the link for full lyrics

"...If life seems jolly rotten
There's something you've forgotten
And that's to laugh and smile and dance and sing.
When you're feeling in the dumps
Don't be silly chumps
Just purse your lips and whistle - that's the thing.

And...always look on the bright side of life...
Always look on the light side of life..."

Answer 3

You need to go see a doctor and get some of them happy pills. Talking to someone who understands helps to lift your spirits. Have a cry if you feel teary, after wards you feel a bit better.
I know it's hard but don't let yourself get down. think of the positives and the things you have to look forward to. You're not a failure and you're definitely not alone although it may feel like it.
There are plenty of people out there going through what you're going through. I was one of them 18 months ago.
Lift your chin, hold your head high and see your doctor. You'll feel better in no time.
As for right now ring a friend or relative. Just hearing another persons voice will pick you up.

This poem helped me through my depression. I put it in a small frame and kept it by my bed so it was the first thing I saw every morning. It worked for me so I hope it helps you. Take it easy!!

When things go wrong as they sometimes will
When the road you're trudging seems all up hill
When the highs are low and the depths are high
When you want to smile but you have to sigh
Rest if you must but don't you quit

Answer 4

No one has asked, what is the reason that you feel like an absolute failure? What has led up to you feeling the way to do right now? Is it because of some recent inciden that occured in your life? Did you recently break up with someone, or have you never had anyone to break up with?

As far as you saying you want to die....that concerns me. I don't know if you are seriously considering hurting yourself or not, but if you do feel that way, I would like you to go to the phone right now and call your local suicide prevention hotline. They can probably come up with something to help you get through the night, and get you in touch with someone who can help in the long run.

Remember...suicide is a permanent solution to a short term problem.

I'll go out on a limb here and ask you to get in touch with me at [e-mail]. Perhaps I can give you a little more guidance.

dan h

Answer 5

trust me my life is defenitly not easy, Im had to lear how to be mature since I was 10, my life goes from bad to worse, how ever when I get into does hard spots of I wanna die and I really thing bout it, I pick up the phone and talk to the person thats closes to me! by just listtening they take some of the waight, anger, and some much more feeling off. not everything but some what, if not look for somethignthat you enjoy doing like for example if IM angry and I mean about to kill the next person that cruses me I dance something havy and put my anger to that, after I feel some much better. I hope it helps I know is not easy and trust me right now Im not at my best!!!

Answer 6

A.Figure out what and why you feel like a failure. Look at your positive sides and achievements.
B.Are you alone because you have no friends or do the ones you have make you feel bad? Get rid of anyone TOXIC in your life!!
C.If you're in a bad situation, do your best to get out of it. Life is what you make of it.
D.If you need someone to talk to right now, call someone you can trust or call a 24 hour hotline.
E.Say a prayer.Even if you're not religious, it's amazing how it can make you feel, but don't expect immediate gratification!

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Why do you feel this way? What makes you feel this way? You are not a failure. No one is perfect and each of us have things that we have done that we arnt proud of.. Im not sure why u feel this way so I cant direct my answer to any certain way, but I can try and make you think positive. Think of the things that you have done that have made a impact on you or someone elses life and how it made you or them feel. Think positive, if you think negative then its going to make you feel this way, and depressed. I know its hard, but I myself have been thru alot of milestones in my life, many obsticles and for about 4 years I was hooked on a drug and i was at my worst. I almost lost my kids, I did loose my home and everything in it that belonged to my mom before she passed away. I was angry at myself for a long long time, but as the years have gone on and the longer I'm clean the better I feel about myself. Like I said I dont know "WHY" you feel this way so I cant direct my answer in one direction, but if you need someone to talk to plz email me and mabe I can help you that way..

Answer 8

My heart goes out to you who have thoughts of ending their own lives through suicide. If that is you right now, it may speak of many emotions, such as feelings of hopelessness and despair. You may feel like you are in the deepest pit, and you doubt there is a ray of hope that things can get better. No one seems to care or understand where you're coming from. Life just isn't worth living...or is it?

Debilitating emotions are experienced by many at some time or another. Questions brought to my mind when I was in an emotional pit were, "Could this ever be the will of God, who created me?" "Is God too small to help me?" "Are my problems too big for Him?"

I am happy to tell you that if you will take a few moments to consider letting God truly be God in your life right now, He will prove just how big He really is! "For nothing will be impossible with God" (Luke 1:37). Perhaps scars from past hurts have resulted in an overwhelming sense of rejection or abandonment. That may lead to self-pity, anger, bitterness, vengeful thoughts or ways, unhealthy fears, etc., that have caused problems in some of your most important relationships. However, suicide would only serve to bring devastation to loved ones you never intend to hurt; emotional scars that will have to be dealt with the rest of their lives.

Why should you not commit suicide? Friend, no matter how bad things are in your life, there is a God of love who is waiting for you to let Him guide you through your tunnel of despair, and out into His marvelous light. He is your sure hope. His name is Jesus.

Answer 9

Please dont feel like that!!! Im sure there is something you are good at, and there must be someones shoulder you can cry on! I think you should see someone about how you feel, you may be able to talk to your doctor about your feelings and receive some help via medication (for the short term) & be refered to a group or mental health worker - just talking about your problems with someone understanding will make you feel heaps better!
Dont think you are the only one who has felt like this, there are heaps of people who feel like this, but its YOU thats got to pull yourself out of it. Be your own best friend and get some help....
Be good to yourself!

Answer 10

I think you are suffering from dipression. My wife has same problem. Try to explain what you think and what you want to your love ones. First of all you need their support and cooperation. Moreover in this situation every thing you will see and hear seems negative. So try to take everything regardlessly positively. Then you must see a phychiatric soon.

Wish you all the best