is he lying?

Question

okay...me and my boyfriend have been together for over 2 years...christmas eve he calls me up saying that he doesnt know if he wants to be with me and doesnt want me and our baby on the way to move in with him. this seems kind of suspicious to me...he was all up for it about a week before this call. he is a truck driver and at the time he told me this he was in "texas" or so he says. he was not home for christmas he says...but as i was moving baby things out of his place his father told my mother that he was home for christmas. wich is even more suspicious...he tells me he wants to be with me...but never says he loves me...barely calls me anymore...and is secretive about many things. just today i seen him driving down the street with some girl in his car with him. i confronted him and he said no that wasnt him and that he was in another city. i need to know if this sounds like he is cheating. i honestly think he is but he wont admit it...i need some help on getting him to admit this. thank you for your time in reading my post. hope i can get some answers soon..its driving me crazy

Answer 1

Oh no, it sounds like maybe you two are in a little trouble. Your boyfriend probably feels like he needs more love (Like in the sexual way) and is probably feeling like he needs to get away from the situtation for a bit. He is probably very used of living by himself and feels overwhelmed taking responsibility for a family at this time of his life. Ofcourse he is lieing, he's probably just thinking of a way to get out of it. I'm sure he'll clear up his mind soon, but just give him some time. If you know for sure that was him in the car with the other girl, maybe you should sit him down and have a long chat and try to make him confront things again, guys are terrible liars. He probably just feels like he needs a break, don't take it so seriously that he might not love you anymore, you have a child together and he knows he has responsibilty for that, and if hes loyal, he will stay with his family. You really need to talk to him, I know it is really hard to convince him to say the truth. If he is loyal and wants to have a nice family, he will try to make things straight other then screwing off somewhere else, but then again, maybe he just wants to hide away for a bit and waiting for things to settle. He has to step up to the base. You need to let him know EVERYTHING you feel and try to get things settled out. I really wish you luck, and I really hope things between you work out for the best, my sister had a relation ship like this, I guess I was quite snoopy and figured out everything. I'm not responding this to get 10 points or whatever, I just really needed to answer this question, because something like this happened to my sister and I was basically a witness.

Answer 2

He is avoiding you by saying things such as what hes told you true or not if it is his child and you are both adult enough to take care of it meaning have a job etc and yet he still doing that then hes not ready for that responsibility thus hes freaked out and is doing anything to keep clear of you and the situation thus its not that simple as he may think he is as well as you are responsible for that life in what may come. Thus if he can not see that either leave him move on there is many other fish in the sea.

Answer 3

Unfortunately if you think he is lying he probably is... The trust seems to be gone.That is the foundation of any relationship.Sounds cruel but having one good parent is better than having 2 miserable people living in the same house for the sake of a baby.Stay with your family until he either grows up or becomes responsible.There are plenty of guys out there willing to be trustworthy.Dont sell yourself short by 'settling".Good luck

Answer 4

if he hasn't admitted anything by now, chances are that he won't in the near future either, not unless he does a complete 180 degree turn around. It sounds like he is up to something, and unfortunetly, you and him are bringing a baby into the world with that stuff happening. i feel real bad for you and i hope that things with you and your baby work out okay.

Answer 5

I think the more important question you need to ask is "Do I trust that this is the man I want raising my child?"

Do you trust him? What does your heart tell you? You probably have your answer already.

This is a terrible situation for you, especially with the baby. I hope you have family and friends who can offer you the moral support you need that he is unable to provide.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

Sounds to me like he is lying. There is no way though to actually get him to tell the truth unless he becomes man nough to tell u himself. What u need to do is whats best 4 u and the baby. I think that would be leaving him. U dont need any uneccesary stress especially while you r pregnant. Good Luck!!!!!!

Answer 7

this ******* needs a good kick in the *** and as soon as you have the baby you should be giving it to him, even if he is not cheating he is a cold hearted man for turning his back on you at a time when he should of been there for you the most..look after your self and your baby.......let him look after him self he will soon realize what a mistake he made

Answer 8

Doesn't sound good. I think you would really like to hear some honesty from him. I doubt if you ever will. It'll be tough but you can do this on your own. Someone who really cares will give you a whole lot more love. God bless.

Answer 9

He definately has another girl out there, sure sounds like it. This is aweful, especially as you are pregnant. But you need to kick his *** to the curb, you and your baby deserve a lot better than him.

Answer 10

He is absolutely lying. The best advice I can give you is to get you and your child out. I've seen a lot of good women ruin their lives endlessly chassing and worrying about men like this. You will find yourself a better life without him.