I was married for 17 years. Have 2 children(elementary & Middle).I am so relieved and I feel great on my new found freedom. I'm on my own now so how do I get my life started again?
2007-01-17 17:10:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ABSOLUTELY! There's been a kind of a joke going around that states "Divorced is the new single" and it's absolutely true. Don't let anything bog you down emotionally regarding the divorce. You're going to feel some probable attatchment issues, but this, of course, is normal. Just remind yourself that you are worth it. You're worth loving, and having someone care about you. After you get that mindset happening, get out on the town and enjoy what life is ready to throw at you. Good luck, and have a great new life.
You deserve it.
2007-01-17 17:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by jokerscard692000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course you will sweetie. millions have gone before you more than one time too I may add. .. think of this as a new exciting time in your life a new chapter new expereince new doors will open up. you will grow and also find yourself now. you have the time to do what you want whether its taking a course going back to get a degree or just joining a club you enjoy or a hobby.
So get out there and start living. Pick a hobby or any interests you enjoy and start doing them
I have a friend who was married for 28 years and 4 kids and her husband just left her last year for his secretary. she hadn't worked all those years. and now she's out working in a mall. and on the side sells jewelry and host parties for people to look at her jewelery and buy so find what it is that you like and hop on board.
Good luck. and enjoy your new found freedom
2007-01-18 04:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had a life before and during your marriage. Now you are on your own again, you still have a life.
It is what you make of it that determines your happiness. IF you brrod about the ills of being alone and self-dependant, or look back in anger, then you have just declared a poor quality of life for yourself.
Go out and make new friends, get a hobby, go on trips, literally get a life!
2007-01-18 01:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by InspectorBudget 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day at a time. Do not think that you need a new spouse now. Your children and you need time to morn the loss of your spouse and their parent. The death of the family must also be morned. Get involved in school activities and church activities. Keep God and faith in your life. Do not go down the wrong path, there is only heartache and sorrow.
2007-01-18 01:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go slowly, don't jump into anything you're unsure of. And YES there is life after divorce. I was married for 20 years, one child now an adult and I've been so much better off since leaving him.
2007-01-18 03:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is life after divorce and sometimes it seems a little better. :) the way to meet people go to some events or something you are interested and there you will meet people, and get to know them or go out with your friends and you may meet new people and just talking making conversation and getting to know people is great.
2007-01-18 01:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by heavenlyangelscent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have a little in common. I recently left my husband after nearly 24 yrs. of marriage. I already have a new love but I would tell you to join some of these singles clubs. If nothing else, you will make some new friends.
2007-01-18 01:19:14 · answer #7 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be sure you always evaluate to make sure your life is balanced. Don't get so caught up in your freedom that you neglect your kids. However, be sure you don't get so caught up in your kid's lives that you don't have one of your own. Continue to do things you did before. Hang out with friends, go shopping, do lunch, etc...
2007-01-18 01:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Was there life before marriage? It will take time but you will be happier than ever.
2007-01-18 01:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by mattymomostl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋