I married and have a baby on the way. My Hubby Has a Little boy From his First Marriage He feels Really Bad about the Divorce Because Of his son. So When His Son is With Us He Get Everything he Wants. He wanted a dog He got 3 He wanted a Cat he got one He want a tree House He got one And so On and So forth. I understand He feels bad about the Divorce But the kid Is a Brat! Im almost 8Months Along Taking Care Of 3Dogs 2cats a Hamster a Bride Plus working Every day. His Son is Only Down Here Once a Month For three days! We get Him on Friday Take Him back on Sunday! My Husband Is Paying Child Support For her Four Kids One of them is his! And to Top it Off His Sons Will not Give me the Time Of Day Because What his mother Has said! She Thinks i Am the Reason He left. But he Lived in An Apartment For 6months before we even Met And was working on a Divorce we have been Married For Almost a Year Now And shes Just now Letting us See him. Any Suggestions On what to say To him?
2007-01-17 17:01:54 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first of all why is he paying childsupport on children that are not his?? He spoils his son out of guilt. He should go to court and get regular visitation. He needs to stop spoiling his son and start teaching him to show respect to you_
2007-01-17 17:08:20 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the guilt he has for ruining his previous marriage might just ruin the current one as well if he doesnt do anything about this. Tell him...u tried being understanding and all but all of this is taking a toll. Ask him why is he supporting other 3 kids which arent his? Why would he want to carry other men burden when he has more than enough in his very own plate.
I truly feel sorry for you. Hang in there and I'll pray that things work out fine after this.
2007-01-17 17:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Aranel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha this sounds really familiar. I finally just told my boyfriend that he was a great dad, and that he doesn't have to make it up that the relationship didn't work out. I told him that being a good dad made up for it enough. I then explained to him how spoiling his son would only make things worse, and that I wasn't going to have my child raised that way. I think you just have to approach it in a positive way. Ultimately he feels like he let his son down, but you have to assure him being a good dad is all his son needs. As for the pets....I'm so sorry...maybe you can send them to his moms? haha Don't worry about what the ex says to th eson. Just be loving towards him and when hes old enough he'll understand what really went down. I know its hard...just hang in there! Good Luck!
2007-01-17 17:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is over exaggerating!!he shouldn't do that to you.he should think about u and ur coming baby!all the things u have to do when u back from work, when u're pregnant!he should feel pity for u!!!talk to him and ask him not to give the money for the other 3 children.u're new baby needs better thing!and don't spoil the other son too much.tell him.
2007-01-17 17:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by bumblebee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that buying him all the things he asks for may make him (your husband) feel better about the situation, but that is not necessarily the best thing for the child. Also, WHY IS HE PAYING FOR HER CHILDREN THAT AREN'T HIS?!
2007-01-17 17:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋