my sis is 16 and outta control she assaulted me lastnite ! my dad and i had to use millitary restriants on her , in the process i she bit me on the arm, and tried to black my eyes but i blocked her arms and hands to where she didn't suceed!! im really upset ,shocked and not sure what to do?! even though it all happend at my parents house , they are still held accountable for her actions right?!, they said they are waitng for her to turn 18 i year & 4 months form now, but is there a better way to deal with this kid, i mean shes outta control and very violent amd agressive, please help!!!! i love her and care about her but she doesn't care about how my parents and i feel! i need some help here what would you all suggest i my parents and i do ? Im 24 and my parents are getting to old for this there in there 50s&60's is it posible for her to be emacipated since she has threatend to move out already and drop outta school! what are the laws and requirements for that?! amd is that an option?
2007-01-17 17:01:36 · 9 answers · asked by southernspring2010 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
OK, yes you can press assault charges on your sister.
You really should try to help her finish school - else she will be a burden to your parents later and may be to you. At 18 after school let her walk.
If she needs medical help you may want to suggest she get some, have it on the records while she is still a minor.
Your parents have the right idea however - wait till she is 18 and see what can be done to help her. You have not indicated if this is a new or old problem. 50 and 60's can handle another year of grief, Emacipation does not work without an education or job, she end up worse or back with your parents. You need to try to isolate what is causing the issue with her.
2007-01-17 17:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Carl P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to do so, yes. Depending on her prior history and the attitude of the prosecutor, she may or may not be tried as an adult. If she is tried as a juvenile, the court can still impose substantial penalties on her, including jail time, fines, or treatment programs (think Anger Management with Adam Sandler, without the laughs). The good thing about a juvenile record (for her anyway) is that it will be sealed when she turns 18, so the conviction won't show up on a criminal background check later in life. If you wish to press charges, call the police/sheriff's department where you live and make a report. They will investigate the incident and pass a report to the prosecutor who will determine whether to file charges. The downside is, once she's in the system, you may not be able to stop the court process if you change your mind later. Because you're family, it will proceed as a domestic violence action, but even if you tell the prosecutor you'd like to drop the charges, he can still press forward, and call you (and your parents) as a witness against your will with a court order or subpoena.
As far as emancipation, she'd have to show that she can support herself with out help from your family and prove that she'd be better off without them. Judges see teens pissed at their parents everyday, and if they're providing a safe home and not abusing or neglecting her, the court will likely deny any attempt at emancipation.
2007-01-18 01:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by bestguessing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she runs away when she turns 17 the police can't do anything about it. That is what happened with my brother (he eventulaly came around).
I don't know if you can press assault charges, but if you can think long and hard about it. My in-laws sent their youngest son to prison because he stole from them (sold it all at the pawn shop) and used their credit cards without their permission. I personally think it was a good idea. Some people in the family think it was a terrible idea. And it is still on his record. But I believe your sister shouldn't be able to behave this way.
Keep in mind that you should only press charges if you have exhausted every other option (which I'm sure you have!). Otherwise the police will be pretty frustrated with you.
Hope things get better. Sorry I didn't really have an answer for your question. Just some things to consider.
2007-01-18 01:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by bb 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is time for some type of intervention. Her behavior is not normal, even for a teenager. There is a high possibility drugs or alcohol is involved. Discus with your parents what they think needs to be done. As a family, you should come up with a plan of action and then follow through. Turning here loose in the world is not the best answer. It may solve your problem, but will make your sisters problem worse.
2007-01-18 01:18:55 · answer #4 · answered by Paul K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds familiar i was that way and let me tell u the bestthing anyone ever did for me was give up on me completely if she moves and drops outcall her in as a runaway or your parent could be held liable but believe me when i tell you as sad as it is there is really nothing you can do for her. in order for a kid to be emancipated they have to really have there stuff together good grades work good attndence to both and still they rarely do it except in rare circumstances like if your parent were the messed up one and she were better off alone and yes you can press charges although its domestic battery beacuse you are related, but it might help they will require anger management classes. however the court cost lawyer fees etc your parent will have to pay them so its kinda lose lose hope some of this helped
as far as what that guy said about the covicting as an adult it cant happen there are guidlines for that too and no misdeameanor meets those that only for multiple or severe felonies and federal charges
2007-01-18 01:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by skytzo ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can press assault charges on anyone who assaults you regardless of their age.
It sounds like your parents should take her to the psych hospital for a little in house counseling sessions.
My roommates niece was the same way. I know this sounds mean but her mom set the whole thing up at Rush. we told his niece her mom was at the hospital, she went with us thinking her mom was there, and they locked her up, she was there about 6wks, and she had private and group counseling, by no means was she crazy she was just out of control. She learned alot from her experiences there, it was a good thing for all involved. She has been fine ever since , its been about 6yrs now, she has a great job, and she has never been closer to her family. when she gets mad she brings it up, and they just tell her "we love you", all is well now.
Hopefully your parents have insurance.
Good Luck and don't give up on her!
2007-01-18 01:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Gianna M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to have called the cops while it was happening. After the fact, you could try to press charges but the cops might not co-operate if the crisis has passed. If they will help, it would at least get her into the system where people might start to help her, if she and your parents will allow it.
Your parents could take her to a doctor and if she gets violent and refuses, that would be their proof that she needs help. A doctor can make a referral but you can also call your local crisis hotline and get services too.
2007-01-18 01:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best way is to report the person (whatever age they are) as saying and doing nothing will do more harm. Maybe days away in jail or restriction center with anger management will do her good. Go to the police and help your sister. Good luck
2007-01-18 01:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by sand 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Law and control are wordly weapons to sue with enemies and when ever it is needed not of course with sister ,
be courteous and generous she can be won by doing good things to her even though she hurt you
2007-01-18 01:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by david j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋