my husband used to be an OFW. But the prob is I discover in his phonebook names of new girl friends, also in his email add address book. 1 morning he receive an international text message from a unisex name and I open it w/out consent from him. the txt message states ( hi how are you, so you left already you didnt informed me, so how are you maybe you have lots of girls now. hehehe... you can reach me to this no. ## or email me here ## ) so I ring the no. using his phone, and a girl answer with a sweet voice. And I turned it off in less than a minute she give us a call and I just listened she said I cant hear you and hang up. after 1minute a txt message received saying( I called you but I heared nothing is it you or your wife hehehe...) I confronted my husband he said it was male his playmate in basket ball back in the place he use to work. I was mad and we fought coz his not tellng me the truth coz I know it was a girl. but in fairness to him he didn't change since the day I met him.
2007-01-17 16:52:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, I hope you don't have any children with him yet...because they are the ones who suffer most. The Bible is clear about divorce. If your husband is cheating (and the evidence you have provided is very convincing) then you will be better off without him. If you are able to forgive him, and he is willing to grow up and stop fooling around with hearts...then you can have a better relationship. Until that day, you will only feel betrayed, and you shouldn't have to endure that for long. Now I need to know, what is an 'OFW'?
2007-01-17 17:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jalapinomex 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think he's cheating on you. Something tells me this.
As you cought him red handed, he was confused as what to tell you and replied so. How can he think you cannot make out a difference between a male and female voice?! Tell him to say the truth to you, somehow handle the matter maturely, and ask him to answer you truthfully. He should answer you the truth, if he really loves you. If he still say the same, tat he's not involved with anyone and you keep getting doubts, if this continues for long, confront him once again, and this time punish him, very hard. Dear, i advise you to handle the matter the matter maturely. Take help from any of your friends, whom you trust. And maybe there's nothing to worry. There are many hungry girls behind married men, trying to snatch them. Be careful. and give him some chances.
2007-01-17 17:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by wachie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A strange woman has access to your husband's personal telephone numbers and email. This is not the norm. If she were a work-related person, you would know about her already.
I'm sorry to say, it sounds like he is up to something. Many men play these games over the Internet and feel it's not cheating, but this person is using the phones as well, so it has progressed beyond Internet flirting.
He probably will not own up to it, so you will have to decide where you go with this, and it's not a simple, easy decision. It is very hurtful, and I wish you the best.
2007-01-17 17:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You knew he was like that since the beginning. Why did you let him do this to you. He is definitely one of those people you say once a cheater always a cheater and you knew that. He still won't change and you should go get a check up to make sure you are healthy. What if that is a guy with a new woman's voice. It can be done. Leave him and find yourself a happy life.
2007-01-17 19:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by VC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in fairness to him???? in fairness to him???? chicka!!! take off the blinders you wouldnt have asked if you didnt know deep down already you feel when something is wrong but back to your last statement, in all fairness to him! he is the sams since the day you met him what does that have to do with anything my husband is alot of the same as he was so that would have nothing to do with anything if i got a text and called and got a giggly girl, in all fairness just went out the door with all of his clothes!!!!!! YES HES CHEATING there are way more fish in the sea life is to short to live like that find someone who cant live without you, muchless have others on the side
2007-01-17 17:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by enochsangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAKE UP!!! Stay with him if you want too, but HONEY, he is cheating! Ain't no man gonna go through all that crap to be just be playing around...his male friend is a female. Someone he is involved with. I'm sorry, but you have an advantage now. You call the shots.
2007-01-17 16:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by precious girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry to hear that. But you should tell him what you found out...and ask the girls what they had been discussing with your husband?
If he still stay the same...and u dont feel like leaving him...then..just do the same as he does...get to know other people online.
2007-01-17 16:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Aranel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In fairness to him!!!? What about in fairness to you! He is obviously cheating. I know what that's like. You should find yourself a lover or just divorce him. You can't trust him now and you never will. Give yourself a chance at happiness.
2007-01-17 17:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he hasn't changed since the day you met him.
1) why would you marry someone knowing that they have a history of being unfaithful
2) why are you surprised that he's unfaithful now?
2007-01-17 17:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by kerrisonr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your own question. Go with your intuition. Sounds like somethings fishy to me.
2007-01-17 16:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋