divorce woman?

Question

how to know people to share divorce expreience and I would like to make more friend, I have been marriage for 16 years. I'm a housemake for the past 15 years, is there anyone knows how to motivate children to study and any tip to be a better single parent.

Answer 1

You're getting a divorce after 16 years? Try your church/temple first. Then check your local listings for support groups. Also, the YMCA has counciling and can help with single-parenting. What city/state? You'll need some serious support. Try God and then look through the phone book.

Answer 2

Being a single parent is a day by day process of learning....I am learning every day. I am true to myself and honest with my children. I was a homemaker and now work full time. I like being back in the work force and working toward my goal. Being single again has made me a stronger person.

As far as children study....I have a deal with my two boys...if they make A/B honor roll I will give them $50. My younger son did it and my older son did not...boy did he get jealous...since then my older son have been completing his class work on time, improved his behavior in class and does his homework without me asking. Maybe give your child a goal if they do good in school...some children need a push_

Answer 3

My husband left when my children were 6mo. and 11/2 years old. Nobody wanted anything to do with me anymore because I did not fit into the married crowd any more. The children truly must be thought of first always. You hurt but they hurt more. Give them as much attention as you can. Study with them and discuss things as you study. Listen to them; that is one of the hardest things to do because our minds run on several paths. Go to single parent support groups and if there is not any in your area, start one, that can be so much fun, depending on your attitude. If there is a social worker at their school, ask if your children can get involved with him/her. They should have support systems for children of divorcee's. You may be temperamental, yell, and even feel like throwing things, that is why you need to talk to others who feel the feelings you do and you can share what things work best for them when they feel lifeless and at the end. Ask on this site if anyone knows of single, free single parent support chat rooms. If you go to chat rooms, never, never give personal information to anyone and use a fake name and state that you live in. Just be careful but start learning how to get your life back together. Keep God in your life and read your Bible every day and be sure to give it all to God. Daily devotions saved me.

Answer 4

Hi doremon. I'm a divorced mother of four. My youngest child was 1y/o when her dad and I split up. She is about to be 17 in 2 mos. I've been raising them on my own since that time with the help of God. I'm not going to lie to you it was really, really hard at first. I couldn't find a job for 2 yrs. Then I started praying and asking God what He wanted me to do. I was raised going to church but had strayed from it. I was at the end of my rope. I began praying and attending church with my children on Sunday. Soon afterwards I found a program through the welfare dept. that would send me to school and pay for everything, so I went to school and got certified in phlebotomy. That's just a big word for drawing blood for a lab. I was hired before I finished school. At that point I worked from 4:00 a.m. to 12:00 noon. I did every tthing I could to give my children a routine and stick with it. I loved them and encouraged them and disciplined them. I found out I couldn't be very loose with the discipline. The girls had to know I meant what I said and if the disobeyed me they would be disciplined for it. If I let them get by then they would get out of hand. They all thought they could get by without doing as they were told. Because of the situation we were all thrust in to I had to be very strict because some times my girls would be at home alone for almost an hour before I got home. This was when I worked overtime. I talked to them alot about our situation and why I needed them to be more responsible at an earlier age. They didn't understand it all at first but eventually we all learned a new way to live. Routine was what helped the most. They came home, got their homework, ate supper, took their baths, watched t.v until 8p.m. and went to bed. This was our routine day in and day out. We went to church on Sunday and when I could afford it we had a girls night out. We would go out to dinner once a month. By the grace of God, we made it through. But I know I could not have done so with out the loving care of my Lord and Savior. I don't know if you are into religion or not but I know this is what worked for us. Good luck and God bless you and your children.