I am a single mother. I have been dating this man for one year. A storm knocked out all of my power, heat, everthing for three days. My boyfriend got mad at me and left. I strongly feel if he had any care and compasion for people at all he would have stayed to help us through our tough time. this is how it went down.......my power had been out for a few hours so We left to try to find warm coffee and food. We were not sure how long the power would be out but the temp was 25. He was stressing because of traffic etc. i nicely said...can you try to calm down a little you are making me nervous. He said, maybe i should just leave if i am making you nervous. I did not respond. He took me and my kids home and left. My phone was out so there was no communication. I got a message from him two days later, checking to see if we were ok. I am thinking he is selfish and inconsiderate to just leave us in the dark...literally. If your man dont have your back who does...am i over reacting
2007-01-17 16:36:17 · 11 answers · asked by justme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like this guy was just looking for an "out" and that nervous comment was as good as any for a reason to leave/....if you cant depend on someone when the chips are down and things are a little tough whats the point ...that's the MOST important time to have someone, so no...you are not overreacting...he sounds like he will be there as long as the sun is shining out of his *** otherwise...don't count on him.
2007-01-17 16:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by .*^+Holly+^*. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are NOT over reacting. Dump him. My man would have run around the house (even after 2 weeks of going out with him) trying to see why the power is out. And he would have then driven me (and if I had kids) to a local shelter the town has set up to get warm. Or to his house/ apartment or would have found me someone to stay with. Never EVER stay in a house that is under 55 degrees, you and your child could have died. When the power goes out all towns and cities will set up shelters (such as the a local school, town house, etc) for people to go to sleep at night and stay warm.
And dump him now. Find a new caring man. Just because you have a child does not mean you cant meet a quality man.
2007-01-18 01:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think you are overreacting if you plan on ever considering him for marriage. If on the other hand you are just dating him for fun and for companionship than I feel you are overreacting, but just a little bit.
If you are considering him for marriage: You need a guy that will stick by your side even when you are both grouchy, angry, worried... anything. This is especially true if you have kids. He should have been going out of his way to make you and your children comfortable and should have forgotten any worries he had about traffic, or at least put them to the back of his mind.
If you are just interested in him for fun and companionship: He really shouldn't have left you, but since you are not that serious, you shouldn't expect to have him put you or your kids first. So personally I think it was rude of him to take off, but I would forgive him.
2007-01-18 00:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
western new york our power went out for a week and I stuck with her and her kids. he seems like he is acting trapped. I would let him go. I dont need to tell you that he did wrong.
sounds like he is a hot head also. soon he will be mean to your kids. he'll start taking it out on them. did he have power at his house? he sounds like a sh*t head.
so he is just thinking hey, I can just leave at any time. cause i'm free and dont have any responsibities. (like your kids) he is not a real man. plus getting mad at traffic is lame. ofcourse it was going to be crazy. if he cant deal with that then think about vacations and stuff. dude has to have a head about him. think of what steve mcqueen would have done. he wouldnt have ran away. he would have made you achimney and fire place and chopped wood and heated your whole house in three hours with out using his hands. thats how cool steve was.
2007-01-18 00:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by fuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an immature,inconsiderate jerk!!Overreacting.Please the man left you and your children stranded in the dark,in the cold, with no way to contact anyone.He left you and your children.When you needed him the most.You think you are overreacting.I would send him crying home to his mommy.He would not be man enough to be my man.
2007-01-18 02:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting and most guys, even if they are already frustrated over other things, should always get over it just long enough to ensure you are alright in such a situation. I suggest leaving him if you consider this type of behavior to be expected from him.
2007-01-18 00:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by TCSO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not overreacting at all, he has a lot of nerve, to leave
you and the kids in the dark.and left he a trip and i would
look at that if things get rough would he be there for you. little
things can be come big things.
2007-01-18 01:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously a w@nker. Get rid of him. if he won't hng around a help with something like this then you've got no hope when something really difficult comes along.
2007-01-18 00:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not man enough to take care of you. He is still a little boy. Leave him at this moment!
2007-01-18 00:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by BitterEnding 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He appears to be the selfish one. You have a right to be concerned.
2007-01-18 00:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by James C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋