People usually tell me that i'm quiet. Which i am. I'm not so much shy, i can walk up to someone and introduce myself. But most likely i don't have much to say afterward except boring conversation.
This creates problems with my long term relationships see? Because i'm a quiet woman, what general type of man would benefit me?
2007-01-17 16:32:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Tabletenn..: wow, thank you for your information. It really struck a cord with me. I like that you pointed out that i sell myself short, which i hate to admit is true. And i love the part where you said that i should pretend to lighten up a man's day by talking to them. I will try to have that outlook everyday. Thank you so much. Good day to you
Whimsical: thank you also for your beneficial answer.
2007-01-17 17:51:02 · update #1
first i would say don't get caught up with the impression that there is one definitive type or answer. second it's about perception even by suggesting that your conversation is boring sells yourself short -- did you ever think that they are the ones who are boring?
i do hear what you are saying - sometimes when i talk to ladies i feel that i am not being myself, that i am trying to water myself down in order to seem normal.
shyness is a callus -- it is built up, it doesn t happen over night, cognitive understandings create a comfort zone which is built up through repetition --- but this is not the end, shyness can be broken -- try thinking that you are liberating these guys by talking to them, envision yourself as a doctor doing them a favor breaking them out of their boring ol' day to day sameness.
being quiet isn't not a bad thing, but you must know when to speak. it is true we are given one mouth and two sets of ears and that often those who talk loudly say nothing. your life is yours to live, do not let history govern your future. with the snap of your fingers you can make things different, who knows maybe the guy your speaking to is just like you, shy and waiting for some sign? make sure you stay social !!! best wishes
2007-01-17 17:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by tabletennissense 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The quieter sorts. i'm the quiet type and in many cases i somewhat do not want to communicate in college each so often because human beings anticipate i'll claim something somewhat smart even as somewhat i'm in basic terms of time-honored intelligence yet they anticipate i'm smart because i do not communicate a lot. So if i do not say something very smart then i think stupid in basic terms because human beings anticipate i'm smart. Does that make experience? I in basic terms concept I might want to say that...
2016-10-15 09:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you describe would in no way be a problem for long term relationship.
What you have, it appears, is a wonderful filter that may be frustrating, but the right guy will pass!
The type of man that would benefit you? the one that you benefit.
2007-01-17 16:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need someone who can bring you out of you shell and show you how to not be quiet. I used to be quiet when i was in high school but once i started college i ended up going online and found out that i could be who i really was when no one was judging me. there were reasons for me being quiet but i fixed it by working at it. i am now rambling and i dunno if this will even help ya lol i tried
2007-01-17 16:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by your mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one who likes to be in bed a lot.
then you either wouldnt want to talk or couldnt.
2007-01-17 16:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by dirtyoldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋