How do you break up with someone who you already live together?
He is useless, doesn’t know how to appreciative of someone who is always been good for him, he tries to play the classic psycho abusive male ...crap I don’t care why but he seem to want to be that guy! But I am just solid to my decision and not this time his sweet talk will change my mind that I am leaving him for good..but I just need to find my steps out of this long ugly relationship..any suggestions?
2007-01-17 16:23:29 · 8 answers · asked by Holy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he is abusive, be very careful, he sounds like a loser and if he is he may not care if he hurts you.
You have made a very bad mistake getting involved with this person - so leave right away any way you can, and do not look back or talk to him ever again.
You could call the police, but I would suggest that only if you are in danger and have no alternative.
This person may grow up someday, but putting him in jail may make that really hard and make him hateful forever.
But the important thing is you, and your right to live free without threats. Just get out, I will just bet you do not know how bad this person can be ... so why find out?
2007-01-17 16:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by themountainviewguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find your own place, or on the chance that he moved into yours, (for some reason this seems very likely) , then give him tha boot...kick his lazy butt out...whatever it takes...
don't let him guilt trip you anymore...and if he wants to play at being an abusive male, then hun just be careful cuz chances are he may take it too an extreme and then it's not pretend anymore...
Once you make this decision, and I truly hope for your own benefit that you are dead serious this time....stick to your guns and all you have to do is remind yourself that he's not about to change, just cuz now he's feelin threatened all the promises and sweet talk comin outta his mouth are just manipulative barbs...and if you succumb then he'll just have more and more ammo to stockpile against you later.....after all, it's more about keeping you in a position of fear and submission...he's obviously the scared lil boy who doesn't want to grow up.....lose lose
2007-01-17 16:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not exactly an answer, but when you find the answers to these questiosn, you will have the answer you seek.
*Your living with him, do you have a place to go to once you leave?
*Is he going to come after you when you leave, or get violent when you give him the news?
*Will you have someone with you to protect you/are you able to defend yourself if he does?
*will you need a restraining order?
I think once you cover those questions, your set. you may wish to pack while he isn't around...makes things easier to pack when someone isn't disrupting your work.
and PLEASE tell him why you are leaving, perhaps he will change his ways someday and he won't put another girl through what he put you through, the choice of how you tell him is at your discretion.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-17 16:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by Pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set yourself up in a new place before you go. If the place is in his name it should be easy. Leave without saying goodbye and don't look back.
2007-01-17 16:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by ☺☻☺☻☺☻ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in with a friend until you can make arrangements to move out. Good for you honey. It will be hard but hang in there. I'm rooting for you!
2007-01-17 16:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just making him fell that u are not caring anymore for him and take help of and friend to prove that u are intrested in other guy and no on this idiot.
2007-01-17 16:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by sexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sugar daddy
2007-01-17 16:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
start seeing someone else
2007-01-17 16:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sxoxo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋