and i am lonley for the rest of my life? i worry about this all the time i want to get married and have kids someday and just have a family of my own but im afraid that it won't happen for me b/c i happen to be really shy and nervous...does anyone else have this problem?...help!!
2007-01-17 15:55:41 · 20 answers · asked by *What Goes Around Comes Around 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't rush now, it takes time to find the right person to have a family with. Some of us married people doesn't really mean we are happy with our spouse. I am, and it's no wonderland story but it's my marriage. We all have our problems. Some of us, know when we get too old to be cared for we know we are going to be sitting in a nursing home.
Take your time to find that special person that you want to spend the rest of your life. I think that is hard to find. Don't settle for less or just because they smiled at you. Easy come is Easy go, just remember that. It takes a special person to make you smile and feel good inside completely.
Take care and take your time..and most importantly good luck.
2007-01-17 16:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by jcsas_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can think this sometimes when your young, i couldn't image who in the world I would marry If I married one day but, that was when i was really young like a teen ! We all wonder things like that , but don't worry about it because I think everyone has some one out there most likely !! It's not something you should worry about cause you could end up marrying the wrong guy too !! cause your afraid no one else would want you !! There are guys and girls out there that are shy or nervious just like you !! I don't know your age but if your young you can grow out of being shy and nervious ! I was shy for yrs too but people change as they get older. If your grown and shy and all then you can still rest assure that there is still someone else that feels the way you do !! And you meet someone when your not LOOKING FOR THEM !! Its like a surprise !! You never find them when your looking believe me !! If you do it could be the wrong one !! As far as being lonley if you don't get married, you don't have to be lonely when you can do other things with your life ! There are churches to attend, or you can do volunteer work to help others and you;ll never get Lonely, you can help someone that is old and lonely and that would need you !! there is so much you could do!! Get it ?
2007-01-18 00:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try looking at it from another angle instead of being scared of this. today's marriage unfortunately never work out hardly the first couple of times around. so your theory of hoping to get married and having children would most likely happen but then a divorce and your back to being single again. Why not just date and live with someone if it works out great if not . you move on. people grow people change nothing stays the same or last for ever. just enjoy the time your in and the moments you share. cause eventually that will end. and you will move on to another phase of your life. its all about growing . not to put a damper on you. but this is reality. no sense kidding you this is the cleavers world were living in . or ozzy and harriet those days are long gone. so if you know what your up against your better quipped to handle what comes your way. just saying be prepared.
2007-01-18 04:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert on marriage, but I think I can offer some friendly advice. Just because you're shy doesn't mean you'll end up alone. If meeting people seems to be the problem, I suggest getting involved in a group activity you are comfortable with. For example, if art was your "thing" then maybe you should take a local class. Who knows? Sparks may fly with someone else in the group and finding things to talk about will come easier, considering you share a common passion.
2007-01-18 00:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what i feel your pain. I am really shy too and its ok to be shy. Be open to new opertunities, you know. Keep your chin up and smile cos life is short. We live only once and tomorrow could be your last, so remember that. Focus on what makes you happy and enjoy your freedom. If you feel lonely call a friend go out or have a chatt with em. We all get lonely sometimes and thats part of life but there is a god and your never alone hes there for you all the time. Keep smiling cos your beautiful. Good luck . xo
2007-01-18 01:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Nat555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being shy isn't always a bad thing there are plenty of shy people who get married. You just have to know when and where to not be shy. I'm not saying that you have to walk up to a perfect 10 and ask her for her number but if you're out with friends be yourself that way people will notice you. Don't stress out about getting married, for now just worry about working on getting people to notice you. You'll find someone who appreciates you for you and that's the type of person that you should want to marry anyways.
2007-01-18 00:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_girl_allure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, some marriages are great and a source of joy. But some of them can be complete nightmares. You need to meet people first. Do you have a job? Get out of the house more, join something. At least smile at people. It will probably happen for you. I hope it's a good one when it does. Good luck.
2007-01-18 00:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu will find someone for you.
Have you ever thoughtabout joining a church or some other activity where you can meet people in non stressful situations?
Why not volunteer to work at the habitat for humanity or some like organization.
if you dont meet anyone there, you will feel so great about helping someone else out that you wont have time to feel lonely
GOOD LUCK
2007-01-18 00:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by xxxxxxx b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So how old are you? Try not to be so shy. Join some clubs and if your over 21 go out with some friends or if there's a girl who you like talk to her and ask her out to eat or watch a movie with her.
2007-01-18 00:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by shy_gal2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried using one of those services? Like EHarmony or something. I have never used one, but they sound like they are pretty safe with their whole screening process. If I was single I would do it. Give it a try. And remember...don't let loneliness rule your judgment. Be sure whoever you pick is for the right reasons.
2007-01-18 00:07:36 · answer #10 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋