I feel guilty all the time when I am with her, should I divorce her and miss her the rest of my life, or I just go on living with her hoping time will mend our relationship. Could anyone give me advice ?
2007-01-17 15:50:18 · 15 answers · asked by yesiree 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have no sympathy for you at all.
Hopefully there are no children involved in this homewrecking situation.
2007-01-17 16:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, first of all end the affair! Next you need to find a marriage counselor and start going with your wife. You need to find out what drove you to have an affair and fix that if possible. If you love your wife then do not give up on your marriage. If she is willing to forgive you and you are willing to work on improving the marriage, then time will heal. good luck!
2007-01-17 15:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by HoustonTexan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thank you sir. I study your question, and saved looking forward to some awful end, like "So now i'm having an affair with the sixteen year previous neighbor, and he or she's pregnant." you have a actual situation, and it would not contain "Jerry Springer" kind silliness. So, here is going. Your marriage ought to end. it particularly is not properly worth traumatic approximately. yet, that would not inevitably propose divorce. It skill which you and you spouse grow to be greater advantageous than roommates. i'm no longer vast on marriage counseling, yet you adult males could income. till you 2 substitute your relationship, your marriage WILL end. one in all you is going to locate something or somebody to be captivated with, and you will finally end up divorced. So the nice and comfortable button is- restoration the marriage, or end it. i'm getting the effect that there's no longer a "undesirable guy" here, so I wish you 2 success.
2016-12-12 14:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really admire your wife in what she is doing by forgiving you. Divorce is not the answer, God is! I understand what you are going through too. The guilty feeling comes from the devil. He loves to see people hurting everyday & he also loves to tear up marriages & families. The devil is out to kill, steal & destroy everyday. God is the only one who can heal you & your marriage. I know, cause I am praying for a restored marriage and my husband is on the way back home. If you would like to talk to someone about your situation, these people can direct you to the right person to talk to: www.rejoiceministries.org. I will be praying for you & your family!
2007-01-17 16:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by scolburn1961 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She forgave you and that's a good sign.It doesn't mean that everything is going back to normal.There's still the trust issue its going to take some hard work to put your marriage back together.The guilt is normal you committed adultery and she didn't deserve that.You love her and that's very important if you want to fix what you broke.Talk to her about seeing a marriage counselor that way you can both know what caused you to stray in the first place and that it won't happen again.Good luck.
2007-01-17 16:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Lety 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a strong woman to take you back. I admire that...don't think I could be as nice. Your quilt is eating at you. Don't divorce her because you feel guilty. This is your problem. I commend her for forgiving you and sticking around to work it out. You have a good woman...I would go to marriage counseling so you can both work on learning on how to earn your trust back.
2007-01-17 16:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by cheri_anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty hard for wife to forget the husband affair actually. But if really love her, prove to her, by still marriage with. Give her 200% or more of love and caring, showing that your are regret your wrong doin.
2007-01-17 16:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mat D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with her and hope that time will mend your relationship and marriage and vow in your heart to never do this to her or your marriage again... You also need to forgive yourself and get past this and you may need counseling and help as well and it probably would not hurt to go for marriage counseling. You have a wonderful wife ... Count your blessings and hold on to her for she is a treasure that is hard to find. I wish you the best... I will be praying for you and this marriage.
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2007-01-17 16:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to ask yourself why you cheated. Figure out what it was and talk about it with her. She may have forgiven you, but it will always be in the back of her mind everytime you are late getting home or don't pick up a call.
Tough situation. I would never trust you again as long as I lived.
2007-01-17 16:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by Quant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U are lucky to have such a wife. Forget about your affair and start caring about yourwife as if you are starting life with her from the very begning
2007-01-17 16:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by soofi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u love your wife, do good things for her, and show her by your actions that u are sincere. if she has forgiven u what is the problem, the guilt will go away in time. why would u want to divorce someone u loved?
2007-01-17 16:05:18 · answer #11 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋