Should I move in with my friend or move alone?

Question

I have to move out from where I live. The initial plan was that I was going to move in with a very good and close friend that also has to move in the same time I have to. The thing is, this friend went back to his country during the period when everyone moves, and thus, the good places are just disappearing. When he will be back, I'll have a lot of stress due to school (final tests) but he will be free, except that the chances of finding a good place will be less (in ~2.5weeks). I found many places and sent him pictures through the internet but he wasn't able to decide, and so I couldn't take any place I found. Then I started looking for places just for me, and I found one I really liked. I told him that maybe I will move there instead of moving with him. Besides, in that building there are many people I know and that are good friends too. The problem is that there is only one room available and I should add that it's rather expensive. Now, I don't know what to do, I'm really confused

Answer 1

Well if he isn't in the country right now it is hard to find a place together. I woud say you have to take care of you first and foremost, your friend is a secondary issue. If you are wanting to move into a place and share costs then find something that has a room for him as well, but that you could afford on your own without so much stress, if he comes back to the US and wants to live with you in your apartment that would be a bonus, but it would not be necessary. He should understand that you had to move and he wasn't here to help with finding a place for the 2 of you together. You are not obligated to to move in with anyone, and you have to take care of you first and foremost any friend should understand that.....there is nothing really to feel conflicted or confused about...you have to do what you have to do when it is easiest for you to get it done without interfering with your already busy schedule. School finals are a big deal so he should understand and you should not feel guilty about having to take care of things now without your friend. If it was that big a deal to him, he could have waited to go home until after this business was taken care of. Correct?

Answer 2

If you like the place then go for it. You should not wait for your friend but if you feel he will get hurt then try to explain to him the circumstances. You can always try to look for another nice place when he comes back. Besides, it is better to live alone.

Answer 3

Don't rely on your buddy. You should take the opportunity to move now. If he comes back and you decide later to move again, then you can move in with him.