My ex girlfriend is 19 and recently started university and i am 36 and in full time work.
She split up with me on 3rd January this year.
Reason we split is i said something hurtful she cant get over and others.
I have been off work Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday this week and I met her on Sunday at 6pm and - apart from going to uni - we have been with each other solidly since (she in my bed now as i type this).
We have had enjoyable days doing not much (although I have suggested things, shes been happy chillin).
We have slept together each night also.
Because I still find her sexy (and also because shes been sleeping topless because she says shes been warm) and she me, we have had sex a few times initiated by me over the last few days.
Tonight, she said she couldnt sleep at mine ever again cos she felt strange after the last time we had sex.
I asked her to stay here which shes agreed to do (she doesnt do anything less she wants to) as long as we dont have sex.
Whats going on?
2007-01-17 15:32:58 · 13 answers · asked by John 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she has had 2 opportunities to go out clubbing (on Monday andTuesday), neither of which she decided to do (saying she couldnt be bothered).
2007-01-17 15:53:20 · update #1
been reading a few of the answers here and i really want us to be in love again.
What does everyone suggest to kick start?
Roses, meal out? suggestions please.
2007-01-17 15:54:49 · update #2
ask her if shes there because she wants to be with you and still has feeling for you. maybe she is trying to decide what she wants. you need to tell her how you feel though.
2007-01-17 15:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by lizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's just confused cause she initially wanted out of the relationship but yet she still wants to be with you. I know it might be hard to understand how women think. Maybe she wants to be with you but there are obviously issues that haven't been resolved or maybe she she isn't real sure what it is she wants. And to make it a no sex thing.....it's a signal you should pick up on. She might really want to be with you but she might feel that she's only there with you to please you in the bedroom. If you truly like this girl for more than just having a warm body next to you to do whatever you please then try spending more time with her out of the bedroom. girls like attention....in more than one way. All I can say is that if you don't want to see her go then you need to be honest with her just as she does with you. Talk...it's not like you can read her mind...and maybe you will be surprised to hear what is really going on in her head. You have to communicate. Tell each other what you feel.
2007-01-17 15:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by alymarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have already given you advice before on this relationship, however you are obviousdly obsessed with this girl.
But, I think you have to accept that she isn't obsessed with you. I think the age gap is too much.Dont forget that she is now mixing with people of her own age at Uni and therefore probably noticing the age gap when with you.
I think you have to settle for friendship because it's quite obvious that she does not intent to have a long term relationship with you.
I know when you think a lot of someone this is hard to accept, but if you continue trying to push this girl into a relationship she doesn't want with you, you will loose her altogether.
Good luck and move on emotionally and find someone nearer your own age.
2007-01-17 16:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by animalwatch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to fess up, mayb she is trying to make up her mind and cant decide....
my ex BF still sleeps at mine at the weekend nearly every weekend but we rarely talk during the week we still hook up but were friends we both told eachother how we felt and it worked out
you should do the same but 19 like kinda young no offence...
hope it works out
2007-01-17 20:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a hard age for her and ur older she finds it exciting to be wanted by an older man and vica versa i think you too take your time and work it out.. its serious .remember she is younger and may not have all your exeprience.so far i see a sexual attraction thast about it. so far.. tell her peopel hurt by words- the tongue cuts sharper then the sword.. say ur sorry understand what u meant and be careful you could scar her at an early age in her life.. meanie and for gods sake be protected in sex
2007-01-17 15:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is only one real way of knowing and thats to act like you dont care anymore.
i jknow its sounds crazy but believe me this girl sounds like shes just playing games with your heart and head.
basically dont phone her nor answer her texts or calls and that way she will do one of two things: she will either never bother you again or : she will come running back to you.
either way you cannot let this chicken continue to pick u up and drop you as she is doing.
this way you will know where u stand. if you love somet then set it free, if it comes back its yours and if it doesnt come back then it never was.
2007-01-19 12:43:28 · answer #6 · answered by madgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-03 11:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by Bland1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only she would know the answer to that; what are the chances of you asking her that question? Good luck with sifting out what is wrong.
2007-01-17 15:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by ukpreference 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit robbin the cradle sicko.
2007-01-17 15:38:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of Fish in the Sea (or there used to be).
Go find someone else........
2007-01-20 21:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋