is it OK to scrutinize everything your wife buys ?

Question

and ask her where she bought it and how much she paid and tell her I could have gotten it at half price

Answer 1

Why do YOU feel the need to do this ??? No trust on your side ??? or do you just dislike your wife ???
I think you're a nut and if it were me you were doing that to, I'd leave real fast and see that you get the divorce you need/want.

Answer 2

Hey Burt...

I was married for exactly 20 years to the day and I never scrutinized more than 25% of the stuff she bought. Then one day she brought home a new car...without telling me and by trading in my 4X4 JEEP. Well...we had a come to Jesus meeting and Jesus was not invited.

After that.....even the groceries purchase...I scrutinized them. Let me finish by adding 2 points. After the first 3 years we were married I earned enough $$$ that she never had to work again....so that's way just buying a new car irritated me. And last...our divorce had little to do with money. She simply said she didn't love me any more. And that was 7 years after the car thing.

So I say if you feel that's what you need to do...do it.

Answer 3

if i pay for it and got a good deal no reason to ask if u have a joint acct and she spends frivously then you can ask how much leave it at that if u have issues with a budget tell her we cant afford this no more than she can afford a 400 member ship to a golf club place or 300 for a gym or tons when u lose at poker.. as an ex so to speak that is.. just amnke sure ur bills are paid then have an alotment of what each of u can spend. i think joint stuff is a a pain.. 50 50 for rent food utilities and then its on ur own for gas car spending and dining out clothes music entertainment.. unless someone makes way more than that person pays for more share of rent.. etc.. never scrutinize its demeaning but keep in a budget

Answer 4

I'm tight with money, but my wife and I are on the same page when it comes to finances. Get in a habit of saving receipts. If you really do find it for half price then buy it and take the other one back (Or, return the recently bought item to the original store if already open/worn with the original higher priced receipt). Scrutinizing every purchase she makes is just going to make her defensive.

Show her you really are just trying to save $.

Answer 5

In a word, no. I think a guy (or girl, for that matter) who feels the need to control their partner's spending is just insecure about the relationship/themselves.

People should still be individuals even in a caring relationship. You should be honest with one another, but should not try to control each other's spending (or anything else). Just my opinion.

Answer 6

You can complain & have a point if this behavior is something new for your wife.
Is she paying her bills/payments before spending frivolously?

You cannot complain & do not have a point if this was her behavior prior to the marriage. You would have been forewarned about what you were getting yourself into.

Answer 7

It's a surefire way to get your wife to 1)dislike talking to you, 2) hide her purchases, and 3) turn over all the shopping to you.

Answer 8

depends on what she buys and how much of it she buy, but a;so be careful it could back fire, are you in debt because she bought it and don't have the money or are you just being petty and want to butt in

Answer 9

No It is not ok. You would only take all the fun out of shopping.

Answer 10

No not at all ... Give her a break and why dont you start shopping with her and taking her to great sales!