2007-01-17 15:26:57 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You love her, because she is the woman that you chose to marry. If you are concerned with her health, maybe suggest walking or running together. You need to make sure you look nice for her if you expect her to look nice for you.
2007-01-17 15:30:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
I think a lot of married people tend to let themselves go a little. Usually not intentionally, but it happens. Is she depressed? Has she recently had a baby? Sometimes these are common reasons why. Try to lift her spirits, tell her how beautiful she is. Women need to feel loved. Make sure you don't respond to her with a negative attitude or that will make her resent you. Make sure everything you say is positive. Believe me a woman knows when she's gaining a little weight...it makes it much worse when the man you love points it out. I would leave little hints...ask her to dress up because you want to take her out somewhere. Give her reasons to want to change her appearance for the better. Maybe you could suggest joining a fitness club together. It's Jan., you could say it's your New Years Resolution to get fit together.
2007-01-17 15:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by cheri_anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day, you'll be old and maybe fat but ask yourself whether this woman you married would be by your side then. Looks are only skin deep. She loves you, doesn't cheat on you, looks after your kids - these are the things that matter. Not if she doesn't look good anymore. What's the point if she looks good just so she can get all the attention other men will give her? What then?
2007-01-17 16:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This not only happens to women but men as well. Alot of times women beome content and just want to be the happy home maker, which includes alot of new recipes. She does need an outlet, but it sounds like a Little exercise would not be a bad thing for her health if nothing else. I think in the Vows this may follow for better or worse. if you truly Love her, is her looks changing that important?? Remember yours are also and we all get old..
2007-01-17 15:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You discuss it with her in a mature way, making her health the focus of your concern (making cruel jokes, calling her a cow, and threatening to cheat on her will not help her or your marriage). You bring healthy food into the house and follow a healthy diet with her, and you involve your family in physical activities. A healthy diet and exercise are not just for the overweight. There is no way she is going to be motivated to improve her health and weight if she is constantly being policed and nagged while you sit on your azz eating cheetos. If you love her, this is what you should do. If you don't, and would rather call her names and moo at her, please do her the favor of divorcing her. Let her find a man that loves her unconditionally before you destroy her self-esteem.
2007-01-17 15:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a long term commitment. You just can't divorce her because she is getting fat. Rather, try to talk her out of this fatness. Suggest her some diet which will keep her slim. Encourage her to undergo regular exercise; still better, if two of you do it together.
A friendly consultation with your spouse may alleviate lots of unpleasant situations.
2007-01-17 15:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by utpal_ray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that basically means you married her for her appearance.
that's just really shallow.
guys like you are the reason girls dont always trust guys.
stop being a jerk.
you married her, now you have to love her no matter what. if you were afraid of the commitment, why did you marry her in the first place?
and fyi, women dont like to be called 'chicks' anymore, alright? unless you're 15-years old and wants to be funny.
EDIT: on the other hand, i guess she'd be better off if you divorced her. I would think she'd rather have a husband who loves her for WHO SHE IS instead of what she looks like. really.
2007-01-17 15:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Might happen, but does not have to happen.
You should be talking to her about it BEFORE it happens.
You could point out how important staying in shape is to you and by the time you get married, she should know about your likes and dislikes...so most likely it wont happen, if you and her are on the same page.
2007-01-17 15:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by ganja_claus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am that chick, i feel bad that i let the appearance down but if i have a chance to go out with a new guy i will dress up and slim down again
2007-01-17 15:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by df a 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready to marry a person then you should love them for who they are no matter what! If your with them just for appearances then you shouldn't be getting married!
2007-01-17 16:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by KT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋