2007-01-17 15:15:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
make more money and drop the girl
2007-01-17 15:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw them. Well not really.
It depends on how in love you really are with this girl. Is this a long haul kind of relationship? More importantly, how much does she value the opinion of her parents?
If she's worried that your low income will cause a problem between her and her parents, and you really believe in the relationship, find a better job. This isn't an issue that you need to take up with the parents if it isn't an issue for her. If she isn't worried about what her parents think, don't sweat it. Just sit uncomfortably with her parents every week for Sunday dinner and pray that God strikes you dead while you're there. Then get on with your relationship for the rest of the week.
The curse of conceited in-laws is as old as prostitution and just as tenacious. For eons to come parents will disapprove of their child's choice in spouse. In the end, all you have to worry about is whether or not the two of you are happy. A lot of kids do things that their parents don't like, and odds are, she's one of them. And if she wants to stay with you, whatever your income may be, they'll get over it. They might resent you for it, but you don't need their approval. You just need hers.
2007-01-17 15:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by AbbeyDLaurence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality is reality. Parents want the best for their daughters and at the end of the day if your relationship is serious how are you going to buy a house? raise a family? all of this costs money and if you are not earning enough then they have a right to worry about what hers and any childrens standard of living may turn out to be.
Having said that if the relationship is serious and you are wanting to spend your lives together then you need to work out how you will do it. Is she prepared to work, can you get a second job, do you love your job or would you look at changing the course? You would then talk to her parents about how you propose to survive and what sort of lifestyle you are aiming for.
If this relationship is early stages and fun leaving it that way do not discuss your salary with neither your girlfriend or her parents until the relationship moves to a higher level as you are only supporting yourself you only need to answer to yourself.
Whatever you do don't take it personally, listen to any advice and talk through your plans if you plan to stay with this girl but these parents will be in your life forever and as they get to know you they will be happy as long as you are both in love and happy (but remember everyone needs to eat and that is there concern more than likely not appearances).
2007-01-17 15:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not a what you make, but what you feel in your heart. It is so sad that so many people have forgotten what love is all about. Because if you have Faith in the lord, you can go very far. Love is the first accomplishment of a relationship: as long as you two work together and hold on to God's unchanging hand you can do anything. You know there are so many people that have money, but is missing Love. Money, Greed is all what this world is about; that is why there are so many bitter people. They forgot how to Love.
2007-01-17 15:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by neenarosdee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what are you willing to do to make things right.
Do you feel you should conform to what her parents want? Is she worth it? Are they? Does she really think that? If you asked me I would say you should be realistic. Unless your 35 years of age your not going to be making 70k a year as a lawyer. Heres one thing all parents of everyones signifigant other have in common: No ones ever good enough for their kid. You could be successful in business and chances are they would hone in on something else as a flaw. So try not to lose too much sleep over it!
2007-01-17 15:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants you then thats just to bad for them. As long as your both happy then the parents don't really matter. If you want to be comfortable around the parents then your gonna have a problem, very rarely is a guy ever good enough for a girls parents. Your just one of many guys to them but thats their daughter, the cards are autamatically stacked against you.
2007-01-17 15:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as u and she have feelings for each other it shouldn't matter what they think. If she allows them to rule over then maybe she not the girl for u. I can understand them wanting her to have someone who can take care of her( if u and she are married or getting married) but other then that they really shouldn't have to much to say on it
2007-01-17 15:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an education, look for a better job and stick it up to her folks. If she means that much to you, that is.
2007-01-17 15:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there's not much u can do, i mean ur dating her not her parents. sooner or later they will see how u are and accept u...dont beat urself up about it!!! good luck!
2007-01-17 15:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by →Sasha← 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what her parents think about you do not matter all that matters is how she feels about you.
2007-01-17 15:21:37 · answer #10 · answered by ashlee s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋