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if you had only known a group of people for about 4-5 months but had talked to them a lot and gotten to know them pretty well, would you tell them one of your secrets? such as something like your adopted or your mom died or you don't live w/ your mom and dad? That's what I did and I sort of regret it but sort of don't at the same time because I got it off my chest. I'm starting to feel better about it, but I may need some more encouraging words because I have to see the people who I told my secret to tomorrow. They might be over it, though? Anyway, would you tell them a secret such as the one I did? I've gotta go soon so answer quick!!

2007-01-17 15:14:46 · 10 answers · asked by Taylor 2 in Family & Relationships Friends

10 answers

I don't like secrets. Even little ones. They eat at you and make you feel guilty for keeping them. I knew a girl for a few weeks and she told me that she had been raped by a guy at prom. It didn't affect our friendship at all.

Getting a secret off your chest is the healthiest thing to do. Every experience is a part of who we are. It's better to own the embarassing things and accept it. Otherwise you'll just dwell on it and eventually resent that you're lying about it.

You did the right thing. I dont' think your new friends will give you funny looks for the rest of your friendship

Cheers.

2007-01-17 15:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by AbbeyDLaurence 2 · 0 0

Well you can know someone all of your life and really don't know them. You felt comfortable to tell them your secret. So that means you pick up on something that made you feel that they were trustworthy.

I think the issue is the length of time that you've know them. Also, the "secret" is nothing bad. You were being honest with them an honesty goes along ways in these days.

2007-01-17 15:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by gloried 3 · 0 1

You seemed to be comfortable with them enough to share this secret. I think you're being a bit anxious because as yet you don't know their reaction. You acted maturely and considerate as a friend sharing part of what makes you, you . So now it's up to them to show if they are as mature and compassionate. If they ridicule you then that's their issue to deal with and you don't need friends like that.
I believe people come into our lives for a time be it 5wks. 5mths 5yrs, etc. To help us overcome our baggage as we do for them. Then we sometimes move on more fulfilled and ready to meet others along the way.
I don't think you need worry about your friends. This will sort the real friends from the group any way. Don't waste time on the others. Good luck Ciao.

2007-01-17 15:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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2016-10-07 08:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by armiso 4 · 0 0

No. I think you should keep your secrets. Knowing someone for 4-5 months is not knowing them well enough to tell secrets.

2007-01-17 15:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 0 1

I can't think of any secrets on the top of my head. I think you did the right thing. Apparently, you feel better inside about what you did. That's the important thing.

2007-01-17 15:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Well, it doesn't matter what anyone thinks of you or whether they will judge you on what they know of you. What matters most is that you're comfortable with whatever your secret is. I would be straight with anyone about the stuff you asked about. No matter how long I knew them, I think.

2007-01-17 15:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 0 1

Be proud of who u are. U let people know u straight out, now u can weed out who's worth ur time and who is'nt.

2007-01-18 00:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by anitra d 1 · 0 1

i dont think theres anything wrong with u telling them that cause who really cares that dont live with your mom they will still be your friends.

2007-01-17 15:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by ashlee s 2 · 0 1

Why?

2007-01-17 15:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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