im 13. mt dad just moved out... and me and my brother were devistated! but it gets worse! he moved in with my ex-aunt... who used to be like the coolest person in the entire world! but now its really akward between us... and she is trying to buy my love... what should i do?!?!?!?
2007-01-17 14:59:44 · 13 answers · asked by Never Looking Back 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
take the money and tell her she owes you a lot more
2007-01-17 15:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did you get an ex-aunt anyway ? Is she kin to your Mom or dad? I hope not!! I don't believe in keeping it in the Family!! Well if she's buying you things and you think she's buying your love then just don't accept the gifts from her ! Tell her no thanks for them! Your dad is grown and will do what he likes but i hate he hurt you so much ! But that is life sometimes, it hurts ! As you will learn and learning now ! But life also must go own and in time you will get past it. It may not be easy but, you can if you put your mind to it ! If you loved your aunt then I would think you should still love her, although you may be mad at her for now ! If she has always been good to you then don't be too hard on her if you can because she may love your dad and he may love her. I am sorry ! but sometimes grown ups do things that hurt the kids but sometimes it is for the best, like if your parents don't get along well or if they don't love each other anymore. I don't think they should stay together just for the kids sake, that makes no one happy in the end ! and some kids are better off when parents separate believe it or not , because of different reasons . you may one day get over the awkward feeling when you get a little older and understand things more about grown up things.
2007-01-17 15:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be totally honest with her on how you feel. The betrayal you feel from her and your dad, and how she can not buy your love. I'm sure one day you may learn to forgive them. However, they definitely need to give you and your brother your space and time you need to adjust to this awkward situation. How is your poor mother doing? Believe it or not this might actually ban you three together with a tighter bond then you have ever had. Right now you are all feeling betrayed, so just hang in there and be there for each other. Keep your chin up. It may feel like the end of the world sweetie, but it's not. It will get better. Take care.
2007-01-17 16:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ex-aunt? how?
Anyway, confront your father. Face to face is the only real way to really get a message across. As for the akwardness i think its unavoidable, don't be outwardly disappointed or disaproving of their acts. Adress the issue but understand their minds first, they are still the same people as before.
2007-01-17 15:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that would be really awkward, sorry about your dad =\ its always tough when parents split.. but going yo your aunt woudld make things alot harder. Her trying to buy your love is most likely her way of apologizing. She most likely wont just come out and do it so shes going to compensate buy attempting to mkae you accept her through other means. What you should do depends on what you want to do and how you feel. If youre angry then you can completely refuse all of her gifts and just be mean or ignore her, or you can try sitting down and talking to her about what happened. You could also just wait it out and see what happens between you and her.
hope that helps =)
2007-01-17 15:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by skitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry. Too bad your dad is such a weak person that he can't fulfill his obligation to you and your brother by living with you guys. Too bad he's so weak he's exposing you to this tawdry affair with your ex-aunt.
Lots of people, unfortunately, have weak parents.
After watching my poor neices cope with their dad's walking out and with his new bimbo, I would say the best advice is for you to be true to yourself. Do not get into the habit of telling people what you think they want to hear, the habit of bending your reaction to reality in order to protect the grownups.
They were supposed to protect you. They failed. They suck. Speak your mind while being as respectful as they deserve. Be true to yourself.
2007-01-17 15:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad that he needs to give you space till you feel ready to talk to both of them. They need to know it's not easy for you. If she tries to buy your love tell her to leave you alone and let her know that before you thought she was a person you could confide with, but now it's all different. You don't have to tell her right now. You could tell her later when you feel better talking to her. If she keeps insisting tell her to back off .
2007-01-17 15:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by shy_gal2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough enough to have your parents divorce
but when one of them dates another family member, that really sux.
If you love your Mom and Dad, forgive them for the divorce. They didn't do it to hurt you.
It's time for you to be an adult now and let them
"do their own thing". You can start by being kind to both of them and telling them that you love them. Tell "Auntie" that there's no need for her to "purchase" your affection, that all you want is peace in your life. If you can avoid
battles with your parents, your own life will be more peaceful!
2007-01-17 15:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mother Hen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See how much you can get out of her, and your Dad. You know, in three years you will be wanting a car. So keep things cool, and work it for all you can.
I am divorced, but nothing like what you are talking about. We are fairly amicable. My four year is very honest. One day, about a week ago I asked her how she felt about everything. She said is was cool becuase now she gets two christmas'. She has two bikes, and two rooms.
2007-01-17 15:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is hard to accept someone who broke your family... it may take time(lots of it) to gain your trust. it is a natural thing for your aunt to buy you gifts et all because it is the only first step for her to say sorry.. and that she love your dad. now, it is up to you to find out what her intention is.. (your dad's fortune or your acceptance). play it cool but alert and take your time to know her.
2007-01-17 15:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by AutumnMemoirs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her and Dad that you need time to let all of this sink in, and that you do not need or want gifts to help you deal with stuff. Give yourself some time, and realize that there is nothing you can do about who your dad wants to live with, it is his choice. Hopefully in time things will not feel so weird to you, but they really need to give you some time and space to work it all out in your head.
2007-01-17 15:04:33 · answer #11 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋