Have you heard of any couple being involved in one? What are your views on it?
2007-01-17 14:59:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it works for them ... why not? It takes a great deal of maturity to pull it off, whether it be a marriage or an exclusive relationship.
2007-01-17 15:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by morahastits 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, I know about it, my view on it is it's not something you should do. Because when you make your vows to your spouse when you get married you vow to forsake ALL others, meaning that you would keep yourself faithful to your spouse, and in an open marriage your allowing you and your partner to have sex with other people which is wrong. Because your bringing people that your not married to into your marriage bed. Sex is a very personal and emotional thing that is supposed to be between a husband and wife. God created sex to be between a man and woman who are married to each other. Not a husband and another woman or a wife and another man that they are not married to. It's adultery. Also with an open marriage it can cause alot of guilt and trust issues, and it's just not worth it.
Say a couple decides to have an open marriage and the husband gets emotionally attached to another woman that he's had sex with, and is paying more attention to this other woman than his own wife, how is she going to feel? Like she means nothing to him.
An open marriage is nothing more than consentual cheating.
2007-01-17 23:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have known of 2 open marrages. Both eventually ended in disaster. Within 2 years they had drifted so far apart that they lost sight of each other. It would seem a solution for two people to get together for reasons either legal or whatever who do not and can not trust or really just want a legal flatmate and to ward off any commitment that they may have to make in other relationships. Why bother getting married. Just buy a ring and put it on. Cheaper
2007-01-17 23:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by ub6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of it. However, a lot of couples that feel they have a strong enough bond to be able to withstand this lifestyle find out the hard way they can not. If this is something you and your wife have discussed be sure and take a step back and realize, it's one thing to talk about it and another to actually do it. The long term effects can be devastating and remember you can NEVER take it back once it is done.
2007-01-18 00:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its fine its between the couples if both agree on it why not. i mean some women i have listened to on hear have acutally said they never want to have sex again with there husbands and some dont' mind if the man gets it from other places as long as they don't bother the wife with it. ther happy bringing up the kids and doing there own thing. and the man can do this discreetly. and still supports the family and puts a roof over there head so if it works for there arrangement then why not. other couples just live as buddies as they have secret lives loving another same sex. so to each there own i say. not our business its theres.
2007-01-18 04:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have known two couples with open marriages. One couple has split up and the other is still together. 50-50 chance of it working I guess.
2007-01-18 05:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by Bill I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known about a dozen couples who were in open marriages.
Only one is still together.
The others fell prey to jealousy, or one of the primary partners falling in love with one of the secondary partners, and divorcing their spouse so they could be together. (Funny enough, very few of THOSE relationships are still together, either...)
Unless both parties are wholeheartely in favor of it, and can control any jealousy issues or possible romantic entanglements with the secondary relationships, then I think it's a freaking stupid idea that puts the marriage at risk.
2007-01-17 23:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't count on it at all because an open marriage is really risky and it can lead to a divorce and it can lead disease's also. If your thinking about it, don't try it just leave your marriage as it is.
2007-01-17 23:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by shy_gal2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of it but i do not feel it is a good thing at all!!! It opens your marriage up to pain and suffering and alot of possibilities of STD's and things like that and unwanted pregnancies too....
2007-01-17 23:02:56 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They usually end in someone getting hurt. I wouldn't do it because there is always the possibility your partner may bond with the other person and pay less attention to you or vice versa.
2007-01-17 23:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by Al J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋