ended his life 2 weeks ago. I feel so depressed right now and don't know what to do. In the note he left me, he said the reason he did it was because he felt that his life had been ruined by circumcision. He believed that circumcision makes sex unpleasurable for the man. He also gave me the password for his yahoo account (the one im asking this question on) which is full of questions were he talks about ending his life because of circumcision. I can't believe people on here actually told him to do it. The people on here have no sympathy and now he is gone. I am so depressed right now. I just don't know what to do. What can I do???? I never even noticed a problem in our sex life. I thought it was great. I guess I was wrong.
2007-01-17 14:50:31 · 28 answers · asked by xdfsddfgdfgdfg d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow... sorry to hear about your lose. But, like someone else has already mentioned, I don't think that that would be the sole reason for him ending his life.
I think that the only thing you can do now, is seeking counselling for yourself to help deal with and overcome the grief.
2007-01-17 14:56:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your boyfriends suicide. But some of the answers on here are just from a bunch of insensitive jerks. Some people aren't sensitive enough to be caring outside of their own circle of people. Your boyfriend had issues, obviously, and your heartbroken. I just feel for the insensitive ones the most...obviously their closed minds can't let in the air of reality. That is ok, one day someone is going to have their ugly closet accidentally opened...and the truth of things will spill out and then they will be screaming for sympathy...and will get none...then and only then will they learn what it is like to be in real pain. Again I am sorry for your loss...May God bless you and heal your heart soon.
2007-01-17 15:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by momofatsc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you in this time of grief. Please, instead of looking for answers in this format, seek professional counseling. I doubt if any of us on yahoo answers are qualified to help you deal with the feelings of loss and abandonment you must be feeling. Although many people here will try to provide assistance what you need is one on one personal grief counseling. `Your boyfriend obviously had many issues he felt unable to deal with. Sometimes when someone get overwhelmed like that they will fixate on one thing that they feel isn't right and use that as their excuse for the suicide. The reason they may give in their note may not be the sole issue but just the one that comes to mind at the time. Most likely his inability to enjoy sex was more because of his depression or possibly a chemical imbalance than his circumcision. I assure you that his inability to enjoy sex to the fullest extent had nothing to do with you, please don't focus the blame on your self.
As to why people didn't try to talk him out of it on Yahoo, who knows. There are a lot of rude crude people in the world and unfortunately some of them have yahoo accounts.
Please, again I am begging you, seek professional help in dealing with your pain. No one should deal with the loss of a suicide alone.
2007-01-17 15:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, in basic terms about each guy interior the international, no matter if or not they admit it or no longer, seems at porn from time-to-time. That being stated, downloading porn to a telephone makes it seem a touch an habit. yet another plausible answer, regardless of the reality that, is that when his telephone is the in common words safehaven he has from you. that is plausible that you may grant him some "on my own-time" with the laptop and make confident you do not problem him. He desires to sense like he has some privateness about it regardless of the reality that. If he isn't any longer beforehand about it, then there's no longer a lot you may do. actually, banning him from porn thoroughly might want to by no ability artwork, and may be slightly unjustified, yet when it truly is to the point that that is a project, then ending it would want to be the perfect answer.
2016-10-15 09:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by silvi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH my I feel for you and am very sorry for your loss.. The sad thing is that people are mean, rude and just not very kind at all.. It saddens me to hear that people will offer advice, and not think that people will actually take it, or think about it.. LIFE is short and we all need to help one another..
I will say that maybe your BF had made his decision long before he posted questions..
What you can do.. seek help about grief. look to a friend who will listen. Know that the pain will eventually become easier to deal with.. pour your passion of life in to something that you love and do something that will help you remember the good memories that you have and will always have with your BF..
Good luck and remember to life to its fullest!
2007-01-17 15:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not hard to believe that people can be so cruel. and think they should vote for alife which is not theirs. i am sorry this has happened and i apologize for those withou a heart. you see they will expeirence something that will harm them and they will still not be able to see what they did wrong. i dont know what to say on why people end their own lives but it is not your fault. if you need someone to talk to write me teapea102@yahoo.com
to be honest your life is all you have in this life live love and be alive.cry but never forget. i send my love to you. i think he made that desicison long before you and before he asked these people.but i do agree that what happened was wrong. if you wouldve known chances are he was waytoo far away from the help that woul have been given.
2007-01-21 14:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by teapea102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss, and I know how you feel in losing the one you love, I can only tell that you need time, you need to be able to learn how to live your life again, it took me a year to finally get to the point where I was able to start my life over again, but I can tell you that you will be hurting forever, its been almost 5 years for me and it still hurts and I don't think that it will ever go away, I just learned how to live this life again. You will miss him like crazy and then hate him for leaving you and then feel empty for being alone and then you will just love him and treasure the memories. if you need my help, email me at irina4gms@yahoo.com
I hope it gets easier soon
2007-01-17 15:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking into past questions posted by your boyfriend. i found something quite interesting. 3 months ago, a question was posted "I cheated on my husband 3 times" Another question was "How do I cure Aids", another was about "wanting to die" before the questions of circumcision ever was brought up. I think he had other issues going on besides the circumcision, especially him cheating on his HUSBAND 3 times?
2007-01-17 15:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by alcontch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I know that his thinking his circumcision could have gotten him depressed because he felt it wasn't pleasureable, but I have to agree with the others, that there had to be other issues that contributed to it as well.
2007-01-17 14:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you. Your loss must be very hard to bare but l can assure you that l would never advise anyone to take their own life under any circumstances. Quite frankly l am having a hard time believing anyone on yahoo or anywhere else for that matter would be callous enough to advise anyone to take their own life for any reason.
2007-01-17 15:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋