I am in a relationship with a boy, but lately it has been getting to the point where I can barely stand even talking to him anymore. Everyday he calls me at 2:30 PM, about 5 minutes after I get home from school, and talks to me for 1/2 an hour. This really exhausts me because I have been at school all day and I just want to rest! Every time before he hangs up, he tells me "Ok, I'll talk to you when I get home, around 7:10." EVERY DAY he reminds me what time he gets home, like somehow I forgot from the previous 24 hours. He asks me to hang out every single day, and I feel obligated to say yes because whenever I say no he thinks something is wrong and we are going to end. When we hang out, we don't do anything special, it's always watching TV or a movie. He constantly wants to cuddle and kiss me & I dont want to. What can i do. I cant leave him because his heart will break into 5000 peices, and I have a feeling we cant be friends anymore....
2007-01-17 14:49:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I hate having to make up excuses everytime I dont answer the phone or dont hang out with him.
2007-01-17 14:53:08 · update #1
He has asked too much of you. You're going to have to start saying no. No, I don't want you to call. No, I don't want to hang out. No, I don't want to cuddle.
He will get the idea really fast. Ask you if something is wrong? Yes, something is wrong. You need to take a break from him.
No, he won't die of a broken heart. He will get over it.
2007-01-17 14:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? how old is he?
to be honest it sounds like he is the controlling type. and it will always be this way. he calls to make sure you get home. he calls again later on when he is off work to make sure you're still there and not off doing something else. sounds to me he has a trust issue. and speaking from experience ... that never goes away no matter how faithful and up front and honest you are with him.
you have to think about yourself. not him. yes there is a chance it will break his heart, but in the end it is you that matters. what makes you happy. if he is suffocating you then you need to put a stop to it. and most importantly you need to stand your ground and no matter what he says ... don't back down. if he truly loves you he will give you space and TRUST you. if he doesnt ... then you know where he stands as far as your relationship is concerned.
ever notice all you do is hang out watching tv or a movie? doesn't sound like you go out much. you dont have the chance to interact with other people very much ... from the sounds of it.
really ... get out. it will only get worse and you will end up really resenting him and hating him down the line ... and worse ... yourself.
2007-01-17 23:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by toshoa76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
accept the fact tht u dont feel the same for this guy anymore.i think u want to end the relationship.listen to urself.it looks as if u dont want to hurt the guy by calling off the relationship but remember tht ur boyfriend will be more heart-broken if he comes to know u have no interest in him anymore and r just continuing the relationship for his sake.so take my advice n go n call of ur relationship.its better for u.
2007-01-17 22:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by cutegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your feeling; "communication" is the way to know each other better. Don’t blame on each other, but accept. Accept and agree is totally different things. He has to learn how to be confident. And respect others people decision.
If he still can’t learn from this situation, the only way is to listen to your heart. You need to take risks, take more courage to your decision. Friends mean to accept and respect your decision, supportive, but not to put burden on to your life.
2007-01-17 23:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by yogachaitanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got no choice but to marry him. It's the only cure. Once you're married, he'll want nothing to do with you.
2007-01-17 23:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him asassinated
2007-01-17 22:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋