I have found out through my wife emails, that she is not happy with me, and she has feeling for her old flame. I keep asking her if she is happy, and if she confused about anything with the marriage. She tells me no, and she is very happy. I even asked her about her feeling for her old flame, and she denies it.. Why is she doing this. This has been going on for 3 months. It seems like she would want to deal with it with me
2007-01-17 14:35:52 · 12 answers · asked by cooltallguy2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and your question is what??????
2007-01-17 14:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It doesn't sound like she is to worried about addressing the issues she is having with you in your marriage. Unfortunately, the only way to bring this into the open is to admit you saw an email. It will be a little easier if you two share an email account together and have mutual friend. Then you can pass it off as just wanting to see how your mutual friend is doing. Good luck.
2007-01-17 16:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not going to be honest with you, confront the guy. Be cool about it, don't go looking to rip his head off. But tell him you're aware of what's going on and he needs to back off. If he plays it macho, don't start anything, just let him know it's over.
Then tell your wife that you know what's been going on, and you've already told him it's over. If that doesn't get a reaction out of her, it may be too late already.
Hopefully, she'll get mad, because if she's able to get angry at you, it means her feelings towards you haven't died completely, and it will open a dialogue between you 2.
But if she acts complacent, or worse yet, tells you she's leaving you for him, then you could be done before you get started.
If she opens the door to talk (even angrily), you'd better be ready to engage, dig in, find out why she's doing what she's doing. Chances are you have either done something to set her on this path, or you've left the door open for her to move in this direction, unless she has a severe character flaw. Only you can know for sure, but you've got to get her to talk. If you can't, then good luck on your future.
2007-01-17 15:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is doing this because she doesn't want to hurt you by telling you the truth just yet. She is not happy with you because all of her energy is going back to rekindle the old flame.
Dump her. This is a dealbreaker for me.
Hopefully there are no children involved.
2007-01-17 14:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman and we women sometimes do not feel loved or understood by our husbands. Think about it. Think if you are still romantic, or if you listen to her. Do you make her feel beautiful? If she has not spoken to you about the emails it might be because she is afraid to talk to you. What I can tell you is that she is married to you. I do not know her or you but I am married and I know that marriage is a very strong committment. Keep trying to restore your marriage if you love her.
2007-01-17 14:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by yosob 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, she should talk with you about it. That is the only way for you to find out what she feels she is missing and for the two of you to work at making your marriage last. Best of luck to the two of you.
2007-01-17 14:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if she is open to going to marriage counseling with you and you just might have to email the guy yourself and ask him what is going on.... Then once he answers you then confront her with it. You may also have to seperate for a while to sort out your feelings on this one.
2007-01-17 14:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 09:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by silvi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could be testing the water. to tell you and you blow up and leave, and she's not completely hooked up with her ex will put her out in the cold. Its easier to string you along until she's sure either way. confront her honestly without anger and you may get her to talk.
2007-01-17 14:40:19 · answer #9 · answered by eleven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do a premptive strike and file for divorce before she gets unconfused and finally decides she is not happy with you and wants her old flame
beat her to the punch
2007-01-17 14:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront her with those emails, put her on the spot. Get your information right infront of you and surprise her with it. That way she has to face it.
2007-01-17 14:39:40 · answer #11 · answered by alex77055 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋