My daughter reply after questioning her 3 failing grades, stated I thought I could not get into college so I did not try. She is a B/C student taking advance classes. Further ? ing she stated she was depress and had night mares over a friend who committed suicide this past summer. My mother wit tells me to encourage but to be firm
I think it a case of too much lap top & i-pod! But I just want her to do her best and explain this to her. She is the only child at home and can find excuses quicker than she can ans. her phone.
I took away all 3 items and tried to encourage her. But I still feel as though she is manipulating me.
2007-01-17 14:33:56 · 4 answers · asked by katrina b 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My mom said that I will finish high school and go to college or I move out. I thought about that for a bit, and then she told me very seriously that if I move out, the only thing that I can take with me is what I bought with my own money (that I earned myself and didn't get as gifts).
I really thought about it, and then realized that if I move out I would leave 95% of my things behind, and wouldn't have anywhere to go, with no money.
It was tough love. And you know what? It worked. She says now that she was absolutely terrified that I would move out, and then she cried in her sleep with relief when she realized that I wasn't going to.
If I were you, I would go to the school and without her knowing, start asking questions from teachers, guidance councellors, vice-principals and principals. These people have seen it all and are pros at problem solving when it comes to teenagers. They might also know your daughter from a different perspective and can guide you in the right direction.
Good luck :-))
2007-01-17 14:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by smazedmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not getting high grades in the advanced classes, maybe you should have her change her major to take classes that she enjoys and are practical that she can use in the working world. She can then go to work after school and when she finds out what she wants to do in life go to Jr college or more later. Sometimes you have to live life a while to know where you fit.
2007-01-17 23:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by the_buccaru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop pushing her, let her have a year of working and maby she will figure out for herself what she wants to do, be patient, set limits on a small rent payment and purchasing some of her lifestyle items (phone, Internet, cable, car insurance) she is a great kid I'm sure
2007-01-17 22:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs a counselor and maybe you too.
2007-01-17 22:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by megan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋