If marriage is not about love, what is it about? It must be about love for some people?
2007-01-17 14:06:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The question you first have to ask is..."What is love, exactly".
After you ask this question and find the answer, then you know why people say that marriage isn't all about love.
"Love" as we know it today is a feeling that comes and goes. Some days I absolutely love my husband of eight years to death. Other days I could just kill him.
Marriage is built on love yes I agree, but to TRULY love someone you put them above yourself at all times, ALWAYS.... there is so much to True love... and some of these answers already given have mentioned some...but there is one thing lacking in ALL of them. That is commitment.
Marriage is no less involved as being a parent. You can't (or rather shouldn't) Have a baby and then when things get rough because that child isn't giving you what you think it should, or satisfying you anymore, give it up and say to heck with it. Parenting is a commitment for life, and so is marriage. It isn't anything that should be taken lightly nor tossed off like yesterday's sweaty socks.
Sorry this was so long, just a very precious subject to me.
Hope it helped a little at least.
2007-01-17 14:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love should, of course, be involved when it comes to marriage. But why marry this person if you do not trust them, or see a friend in them, or are willing to share everything with them? Love is a base for marriage, but there are so many other factors that need to be included before taking such a huge step. You will be spending the rest of your life (assumingly) with this other person, and friendship will play a far bigger part than love as time goes on.
To say marriage isn't about love is wrong though. Because while all these are factors play a part, there's no point in marriage if you don't love the person.
2007-01-17 22:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by stina_rox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they mean it's not about infatuation. Love is an action, the action of giving and caring and being responsible, and marriage is all about that.
If you get married, make sure you plan well enough that your children don't have to go into day care. Not only is separation from mommy very harmful to the child, early use of day care is correlated with marriage breakup.
Marriages lasting longer than 4 years have much lower divorce rates than people commonly think of as the divorce rate.
2007-01-17 22:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is about love....but it is a busniess....the financial co-dependancy or shared, responsibility to all your needs, if you will. "I would only get married to somone I love" but what does Married mean? Building, maintaining and improving upon all areas and aspects of your social, moral, physical, fiskal, ablilities and standings. Those kinds of commitments are not just meted out to any guy or girl that comes along. You need to love and trust that person enought to enter into an unspoken agreement where the rules change along with the situation, and business descisions that You make affect the life/lives of others......It is a business....based on a love intrest.
2007-01-17 22:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by diggamann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many times people confuse passion with love. Passion has a tendency to die out or at least fade. However, you show me a marriage that last and I'll show you love. You can't live under the same roof with someone and not love them. Let's face it...who is going to put up with someone elses crap on a daily basis and not leave if they don't love them?
2007-01-18 01:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by mccmb02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, Marriage has to be about love, because if there is no love there, why get married in the first place. Also I totally disagree with aranged marriages.
2007-01-17 22:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is very much about love, but there has to be more than love involved. There has to be trust, security, stablity, and loyalty. If you just have love and none of those other things, then a marriage will never work.
2007-01-17 22:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by icequeen406 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is that most people don't even know what love is. Love is not a feeling, it's something that you have to learn really...that is why some people can be married for 20 years and still break up... they never knew what love was, but they figured that's what they got married for. The only person who knows anything about love is Jesus my sweet...
2007-01-17 22:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by jitwitit 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage should always be about love first of all and people who do not agree should not be married!!
2007-01-17 22:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why get married if not for love? That is crazy most people do get married for love. Some maybe convenience but those marriages generally don't work out.
2007-01-17 22:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋