It's my best friend, he's known for a while. How should I get over him? What can I do?
2007-01-17 14:03:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Your already on your way. You've acknowledged you have a problem and HE'S not interested. GOOD.
Now, keep yourself busy and find hobbies and new interests. Work on a new webspace, like DList, MySpace, or something else that will take your time. Or if you already have a hobby, here's your chance to dive in.
Do you live near a LGBT Center? Volunteer your time to the local Gay and Lesbian Hotline, or Volunteer center. Its a great way to meet people involved in things "other than themselves!" Volunteer at school, the local library, or suicide hotline, anywhere you can feel needed and busy.
Your not going to meet someone else sitting on your tush, and even IF YOU don't want to meet someone else (and you probably dont) GET OUT and get busy, time will fly by!
And as they say (and trust me, its TRUE) "Time heals all Wounds" if you allow it. Good luck : ))
2007-01-17 14:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all an issue of mind over matter. Unfortunately, you just need to do a reality check and get over him. Sure, you can be his friend, the same way you'd be friends with female. Just enjoy him in a platonic way. Remind yourself regularly that he is off limits for a sexual relationship. No problem admiring him as an attractive male, but respect his sexuality and stay clear in that regard.
What you really need is to meet a hot, interesting, loveable guy who shares your sexual orientation. There's nothing better than being attracted to someone who is equally as attracted to you. That's where the fireworks come in!
2007-01-18 00:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by I am Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard. He may have all the traits that you like in a man, besides the gayness, and that is blinding you a bit. I was in the situation, a couple of times. I am still friends with them though, but it took a lot to get over liking them. I knew I liked them though because it wasn't sexual ideas about them in my head.
I would not pursue it, because it is better to have him as a friend than nothing. You will eventually meet a gay man that you appreciate as much, and that will make the world for you.
Hope that helps and that you will one day find what you are looking for.
(P.S. If they get a girlfriend, be happy not jealous. That will confuse you and your friend.)
2007-01-17 22:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by The Gay Argentian Seal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you how many times I've been in this situation. I am only attracted to straight-acting guys, and so very often I am attracted to straight guys. Unless he's the very adventurous type, there's no hope in this case. The only way I get out that rut is to stop interacting with the guy in question, which is not practical in your case; maybe you need to find some else onto whom you can "project" your feelings for him.
2007-01-18 04:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by Soren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask if he would ever consider bending over for you.
Just kidding!
Prolly sit and wallow around like everyone does, find hotter guys out there,ones that are sweeter, I'm sure that you are a sweet caring guy that just wants someone to be the same.
Most guys will tell you what they want in a relationship up front.
I would watch some lifetime,eat some ben and jerrys then hit the club.
2007-01-17 22:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know it sucks to want what you can't have but I think the best thing for you is to date other guys. Even if you're heart isn't in it, at least you'll be doing something to keep your mind off of your crush. Go out and have fun.
2007-01-17 22:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Be emotionally intelligent enough to distance yourself from people who you have no chance of requiting your romantic fantasies with. End the friendship now. You are not his friend. You are his fan.
2007-01-17 22:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You won't be over him until you find another guy to direct your attention towards
2007-01-17 23:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll have to find some one else.
this you need to do.
you can still maintain the friendship,
and have what you want.
good luck.
i sense what you feel.
2007-01-18 02:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok look i think you are totally gross for being gay but i dont think any straight guy is gonna like you.Sorry thats just the way it is man..or should i say girl
2007-01-17 22:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by halleyluvu 2 · 1⤊ 7⤋