2007-01-17 13:51:47 · 31 answers · asked by iris 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not torture youself about it unless you're sure. Because if he's not, then you might encourage it, nobody likes to be mistrusted....especially not when give your everything so someone else. When we start doubting (tell you from advice), we tend to become someone else.....we transform ourselves into this person we dont recognize. Checking emails, wallets, pockets, cell phone......and all you're doing is harming yourself and making yours and his life miserable. So be careful and Good Luck
2007-01-17 13:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by ?Jaileen? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been cheated on. If they don't tell you when they do it then it wont be that easy to get it out of them.
First of all, I'd make sure that your suspicions are correct.
If you know that it is true then sit them down and calmly confront them with it. If they cry or fly into a rage, you can consider that a defensive manouevre. Don't pander to their emotions or have any pity, because if you do and you stay together, It's like permission to do it to you again in the future.
Then decide what you truly want to do yourself.
If it ends your relationship then make sure you leave it happily. Feeling good within. Remember, it wasn't you who did it.
It makes it a whole lot easier to get on with life.
If you choose to forgive then issue a warning and stick with it. Do it again and it's over. Something like that.
2007-01-17 14:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by JeffE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You open your mouth and ask him blankly what is going on. Tell him you sense he is cheating and you tell him the reasons why and see what happens. If he truly is cheating he will probably try to lie but if you watch closely you can tell if he is really lying...are his eyes darting around, is he sweating a lot, does he just brush it off like nothing, or does he seriously deny it and try to rationalize why you think he might be cheating. You have to communicate. That is the key.
2007-01-17 13:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by icequeen406 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people have suggested you just ask him. Dont do that. He'll only lie, mine did. I had tons of circumstantial evidence and he still lied. Keep your mouth shut and stay on your toes. Be alert and dont change the way you treat him. If he is cheating and you ask him, he'll lie and then cover his tracks 10 times better. He'll get careless, you'll catch him, and then you have choices to make. Salvage the marriage or leave, but if you do choose this route, be prepared what you might find. I hope he isnt doing this to you and i wish you luck.
2007-01-17 14:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you "sense" it or do you have "proof" of it? Better make sure before you start accusing...
If you discover your partner is cheating, you have to decide your next course of action. Do you stay and try to make it work? Do you leave or kick him/her out? Only you can decide - it's not always a "black or white" situation...
Good luck.
2007-01-17 14:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by zoni_tonya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out if you really want to know the truth and if you do, do what you have to in order to find out that truth. You may have to go to the extremes to do it. But really think it through first, the end result may hurt you really bad and maybe you don't want to know. Instead maybe try to get him home or with you in some way.
2007-01-17 14:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by KK1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him straight out. you,ll know by the way he reacts follow your instincts if he,s cheating get rid, don't be a door mat u deserve better whatever your circumstances have self respect, as a chapter in your life ends another one begins right to the end.
2007-01-17 14:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess try and get proof?? Be more aware of what they're doing - see if they are being more protective over their phone - getting more texts?
Working later?
Check for perfume scents on their clothes?
In theory it should be easy enough to spot the signs - but putting it into reality could be a whole other ball game.
just be on your guard and aware of things.
xx
2007-01-17 22:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
catch him in the act. don't sit at home worrying about it. do a little investigating, searching pockets in coats and trousers. tell him your staying at a family members/friends or even at a spa overnight. ask a friend with a car to stake out your house with you and wait for him to leave or for his bit on the side to come over. follow him if he goes anywhere.
2007-01-17 15:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by lizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always check his mobile phone bill, its usually the first give away or his emails.........
Usually if you have a feeling unfortunately its true, thats if you are usually a secure person with no jealousy
The truth will come out eventually, good luck lets hope your wrong xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2007-01-17 14:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋