I was in a serious car accident 3 years ago. My wife left me and cheated on me for no reason while I was in the hospitail. I was told I would never regain feling below my chest. I did regain feeling and I am able to walk with a walker . I have alot of pain on somedays. However I am able to have SEX but I have not been looking for a partner. Am I going crazy. I am only 44 and not bad looking. Could this trauma have done all of this to me? I may just go out and find a prostuite or something. I need help
2007-01-17 13:39:25 · 9 answers · asked by Polar Bear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't rush and stop despairing and for sure don't get involved with a prostitute , you can end up with all sorts of genital deceases just for one night , if you need to relive your self do it at home with the help of some nice mags , and after that just wait , I can assure you there is a woman that will cross path with you that is waiting to find you , it is called destiny synchronicity , all you have to do ...do your daily routine , join volunteering , associations or schooling to expand your chances of being met , and then let it happen , and good luck.
2007-01-17 13:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by young old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe find a female friend that would be willing to help you out sexually, but if you aren't looking for a partner, there is nothing wrong with that. It is sad that your wife left you just because of the accident or for no reason at all. I don't think you are crazy. Trauma can do lots of things to people..both physical trauma and emotional trauma. But if I were you I wouldn't go the prostitute route as you don't know what kind of disease they might have or you might wake up tied to the bed with all your money and valuables gone. I would hate to hear that happening to someone. I wish you luck though.
2007-01-17 13:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are dating sites you could try, even some for disabled people who wish to date where you might find someone with some decent values who really have "been there and done that." Whether or not you have to use a walker doesn't mean you can't find a wonderful companion. Try not to let that get you down. No one is perfect. I'm so sorry for your situation, it must be very difficult. You need human companionship as much as sex. You could still join a dating site and see what happens - but don't let anyone take advantage of you.
2007-01-17 13:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, your wife did have reasons. I don't agree with them, but they are there. She could have been worried about having a sex life. She could have decided that caring for a disabled spouse was more than she could stand to do.Whatever her reasons, she's gone now and I think you should look for a new mate.
There's no reason on earth that you should be alone. If you want to have a sex partner, then go look for one. There are women everywhere who want a good man to spend their lives with and a lot of them wouldn't have a problem with a good guy who happens to need a walker and who would be willing to be there for you on the bad days when you are having pain. Get out there and look! Leave no stone unturned! Network with friends for blind dates, use the internet, go out and volunteer or get active in church (if you go to one or are inclined to). The point is to put yourself out there and in a position where you can meet women.
2007-01-17 13:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hire a hooker, because you never know what diseases they could be carrying. I am sorry about your wife leaving you. That's not right, sounds like she was being very selfish and didn't take her wedding vows very seriously especially the In Sickness & In health part and forsaking all others.
Personally if it were me, I wouldn't go out looking for sex. I would look to make new friends with women, and if you meet the right woman you could get remarried.
2007-01-17 13:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if your wife does not love you you need to divorce her and let her go.... You dont need a prostitute you need counseling to help you get past the pain of this and to restart your life without her.... Why dont you start dating again? Go on a dateline or online on a matchmaking site.... Who knows you just may find a great woman who will love you for you . I wish you the best and I am here if you need a listening ear....
2007-01-17 14:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In illness and in well-being.....those are the vows you took. i don't want to sound ignorant by way of fact i comprehend little of paralysis different than the reality which you lose the capacity to go or administration physique circulation by way of wreck of the spinal twine.......yet why do not you adult men have intercourse? She won't experience it, yet you may ultimate? And does not she want to attempt to delight you...? returned sorry if it is a gentle subject count yet i merely can not think of why you does not have intercourse in case you choose for the missionary place. 2nd there is oral intercourse. seek advice from her relating to the type you experience, in keeping with possibility she would be able to be pleased with allowing intercourse to ensue. For all you recognize, in keeping with possibility she looks such as you do not want to have intercourse together with her anymore.
2016-12-16 07:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you need the services of a lady of the night ot get you back into the game of life, then go for it...
once your confidence is restored
you will care not for you EX or the accident
so buck up and go for it
2007-01-17 13:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to find a nice woman who will love you for you.
Try e harmony.com or plentyoffish.com. I met my husband online.
2007-01-17 13:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋