What would be a good way to ask my girlfriend of less than six months to marry me?

Question

We've known, and had a thing for, each other since the 7th grade (about 6 years). There was never a perfect time for either of us to be together until now. We've only been dating for a little less than six months, I'm madly in love with her and she feels the same about me. We have talked about marriage and children and various other topics of that sort. I'm sure that she is the one person that i want to spend the rest of my life with, in fact, she was the one that told me she wanted to be with me forever. When answering, please keep in mind that i'm only 19 and she's only18.

Answer 1

i was in the same situation and we did talk about getting married, but we both wanted to go to college. we told ourselves that our love could last the four years of college and then we would get married after so that it would not be such a financial burden to us and our families. my suggestion is to give her a promise ring and instead of asking her to marry you just yet. tell her you will love her forever and that you do want to get married. at nineteen and eighteen we could not afford to be planning a wedding when we were still trying to plan our future. good luck!

Answer 2

If you are serious about wanting to marry her I would let your parents know and Then go to her parents and tell them that you want there Blessings because you are going o ask there daughter to spend The rest of her life with you! This just is not a crush or puppy love if you have liked each other since the 7th grade this is true love! I would wait several years to start a family enjoy the first few yrs together and make sure it is working out before bring a child in the world and that way you two have enjoyed everything in life together and ready to start a family! I would ask first and get there Blessings then take her to a cozy restaurant and have the waiter or waitress bring her flowers and then at dessert I would do the one knee thing and ask her! Best of luck and God BLess you both!

Answer 3

IMO, don't. There is no rush. You're just becoming adults, and I am willing to bet in the next few years you will change a lot. I know when I was 25, I was not the same person I was at 18. Best to wait it out, and see where it goes.

In the end, a few years from now, through all the changes you have both gone through, you may still be together. Then, by all means go for it. But, better to wait, then marry, go through these changes, and realize you made the wrong choice. It costs a lot more to get divorced than it does to get married. Breaking up is cheaper than both, as you just have to get your stuff back.

Answer 4

I'd wait at least 18 months. If you have to ask her now, ask her now, but insist on an 18 month engagement. 6 months isn't very long. A lot of things can change over time. The newness hasn't worn off your relationship yet and if it's real, waiting to be sure it is real won't hurt your relationship. If it doesn't make it then it's better to find out while you're still unmarried than to have to go through a divorce. Divorces are never a good thing to go through.

Answer 5

Dude, I've been married 35 years and it stinks. The best time of a person's life is where you are - don't squander it by getting married! You trade your parents for a wife, then come the babies and you will spend 20 or 30 years spending all your money on then and you can never do anything without committee approval. Of course at your age you won't listen either so you're screwed!

Answer 6

You're old enough to marry, you love eachother, why not. But remember this, with maturety comes change and you are both still very young (great this is coming from a 15 year old). But, my grandparents eloped when he was 19 and she was 17, they just celebrated their 55th Anniversary, survived through the tough years, 9 kids (still living), thirty some odd grandchildren, and the deaths of 4 children (sudden infant death syndrome). I hope that you will have a wonderful wedding and a delightful and beautiful marriage, that you will support and help eachother exactly as your vow will state, "Until death do us part".

Answer 7

Depends, is she the type to want the stereotypical romantic proposal? If so, do that. If she'd rather have her, ask her and be yourself. Since you are young, I suggest that you have a long engagement or put off asking for awhile. I do not doubt that you love eachother. I do believe that it's important to explore the world and develop yourself a little more before jumping into something like marriage. If you do get married young, for the sake of your girlfriend's sanity and overall health and happiness, don't have children right away!

Answer 8

You absolutely should not get married at such a young age. Maybe you guys really are in love but marraige is not just about love. There are a lot of things that you don't know at that age. Give yourselves a chance to explore and experience different things, if the love is true you will still be there for each other in the end.

Answer 9

Wait man!! Marriage is a big deal. All my friends have already been married, had kids and are now divorced because they rushed into things. I have had better luck with my relationship just hanging out and having fun, enjoying being young and in love. Just give it time, ya'll are at a major turning point in your lives. People change alot during 19-25, so you don't want to trap yourself into something you can't get out of. You have plenty of time, just enjoy yourself.

Answer 10

Just ask! If you are sure she feels the same way about you, then there is no looking back. It's not like you are asking her to marry you right now. Some people are engaged for several years before they marriage so age isn't much of an issue if you're going to wait a while and even so, if you are happy together, I say go to it. Just make sure you are sure!