help need advice on how to handle bf's jealous,controlling ex wife we(bf and i) are getting married soon?

Question

my bf has been divorced for 4 yrs but his ex is still bitter about him leaving her and takes it out on us mostly me.she consently talks badly about us to his family,she allways trys to get more money from him(he already pays her more than the courts ordered)and harasses him when he does not give in,has a fit if i go to any school function for thier son(made such a fit about one thing the school has asked my bf to keep me away to avoid any other "problems" with her) these are just a few things i could go on forever.i have never done anything to her and my bf except for divorcing her treats her with respect and is a great dad.the problem is my bf allows her to do this.they both have joint custody but he allways allows her to say and do anything she wants to us he says for his sons sake and not to make waves.we fight over this all the time and he has had it.he said if i don't drop it he will leave me for good .so how can i learn to not let her get under my skin when she pulls her crap?

by the way he did not leave her for me

Answer 1

This is your future.

It will continue even after the children are grown. Thanksgiving, Christmas, Birthdays, College etc. etc.. You need to ask yourself is this what I am willing to put up with the for rest of my life?

Good question

Answer 2

By accepting his marriage proposal, you're accepting the baggage that comes with him. He's obviously not going to stick up for you. You have to ask yourself whether or not you're willing to compromise your feelings for the love of this man.