She confuses me?

Question

This is actually part 2 of a question that is always on my mind. My gf is an amazingly beautiful sensitive and loving lady, and I love her with all my heart and more each day. The problem is she will ask me questions like she once asked if I thought I would ever marry her. A few days later I actualy said yes but that it would be a good idea to wait and get to know each other really good. She was very happy but now changes wether she wants to or wants to wait even longer depending on her mood. One day she can't get enough of me calls all the time ect.. next she says I call to often. I have been going with the "flow" and I love her so much I need to find a way to find a "middle ground" My brother and other friends say I should move on but I know I am too deeply in love with her to do that/

Answer 1

Depending on ya'lls ages. I'm in a similiar situation but I'm the Female and I'm in my fifties and so is he. I know he loves me dearly and we've been seeing each other for 2 years and eventually I want to settle down and spend my last days with the man I love dearly also. If you really love her as you say you do then don't let her slip away because sounds to me like all she wants is something, maybe an engagement ring or a promise ring with some words to back it up like maybe talking about committment, like talking about ya'lls future together. Do you ever do that? Females in love, want to hear that mushy stuff if your really serious about NOT letting her slip thru your fingers. Do you want to keep her? Then go for it DUDE ! ! ! Thats why you keep feeling her backing off. I'm starting to do that myself because I think he wants it to stay the way it is forever but not me. I want a deeper relationship or I'll find someone who does. Got it now?

Answer 2

Maybe talk to her about it.. tell her you want to make her happy, but you need to know what is expected of you in your relationship with her.. this would be a good time to let her know what you expect also. So many times we are in relationships and both expect something different than what the other one wants. One may want to only see each other, when the other isnt as committed. This is how things get complicated. Talk to her and tell her what you need from her and encourage her to do the same. She will admire you for talking it out!!

Answer 3

She is either a control freak or she is totally insecure.. thus the constant phone calls and need for reassurance.
You want to get at the root of it... check out her family. What kind of relationship does she have with her parents, siblings.
Be careful. I had a guy working for me and his wife would phone twenty times a day. No exaggeration... I counted.... it was crazy. She was a completel nutbar, insecure, needing control, lots of bad stuff... he wasn't *allowed* to eat lunch with the women on staff because his wife was so insecure.
Do not rush into anything... figure out where her head is at before tying the knot... It won't get better afterwards... really.

Answer 4

Many women are/can be like that.
Establish a set time to be together, or a set number of times a day to call, or times a week to go out.
Of course, discuss it and agree onit-- ask her what she thinks would be enough times to see each other, and make sure she is satisfied with it. Then she'll have to reason or right to get upset-- and she will feel how much you respect and care for her.

Answer 5

She seems to want control. She loves it when the ball is in her court. Talk to her and make her understand that relationships are not about control. Also, she might be insecure, and not want you to feel that you can do whatever you want to her.

Answer 6

Tell her how much you love her and ask her to get married and then you will get your answer.

Answer 7

Talk to her about this. She may not even realize there is a problem.

Answer 8

dude you got some one u love stick with her man

Answer 9

you should have a serious talk with her....