I realized im kinda anti-social..or I'm?*long* also?

Question

Hello, Well today i was just thinking while walking back from school "if I'm anti-social", and well i put a lot of thought into it, and i found out that well i only have like 5 friends but the are all like my best friends, but thats it...i may know another couple of ppl but they are just "ppl", and my best friends know way more ppl than me, and well it makes me think why "why dont i?", Im kinda shy and cuz of that im not much of a talker, and well its kinda hard for me to aproach to ppl, normally i met others when im introduced, buts heh me going by myself to other is like a "no no" for me because i think so much about "how i look, what i say"...etc. also all my friends have girldfrends and im the only one that doesnt, which also make me think "why"...i know some girls that like me and i like em too, but i get shy to them and well i just say hi and at the most some small talk but thats it, all ofthis is realy buging me, i just want OUT...thats all ..wht should i do?

Answer 1

You don't sound anti-social. You are trying to be social, so that would not be anti-social. You sound like you are shy. If I were you, I would be happy. Contrary to popular belief, most people don't have as many as five best friends. You should consider yourself lucky to have that many good friends. A lot of people surround themselves with people, but a lot of these friendships are superficial.

Just be happy. Try not to be self conscience. Good friends will come with time.

Also join some school clubs and activities. Work as crew for a school play or something else. Working with other people is the best way to meet people.


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-social
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antisocial

Answer 2

It sounds like you are an introvert rather than an extrovert (social creatures). If you find yourself happy with your 5 close friends and enjoy being on your own often, you really have nothing to worry about. However, if your "anti-social" personality is keeping you from living life (going to parties, trying to get a job, etc) then you may have Social Anxiety Disorder. Don't worry about the girl issue, most guys are just as shy/nervous as you. And while you are still in school (high school, I'm assuming) you will worry a lot about how you look, etc. Just try your best to build confidence to talk to people, but don't put yourself in situations that will make you uncomfortable or unhappy.

Answer 3

not having a girlfriend thru school is no big deal. And everything else you put down sounds normal, not everyone has dozens of close friends, you can get by with a few. It sounds like you're more interested in people who share the same kind of things, not randoms

Anti-social is when you completely cut yourself off, don't talk to ANYONE. And you don't sound anti-social to me. Just meet up a little more often and go into town or something

Answer 4

Anti means against and social means society, so you're not antisocial, you're just shy. And really you just see more value in having a small group of close friends rather than a larger group of associates.
Antisocial people are those that use people because they don't see any value in any kind of friendships.

Try picking an event you really want to go to and asking a girl to go with you. It takes the pressure off of trying to make the right impression because all you're doing is going to see something.

Answer 5

So brave of you to bear your soul to us, I know EXACTLY how you are feeling. Why you ask? Because I lived it back in school and when I couldn't take anymore, I went to a doctor and was diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder. Like another user mentioned, it's not anti-social, it is social anxiety and with time you learn to grow out of it. Talking with a guidance counselor helps a lot, so I'd recommend that. But seriously, when I was in school, I always considered myself anti-social because I generally hate people but I learned that it is just the school environment that I hate. Go to college - college is much better; that is what helped me get thru the mess of anxiety. Good luck!!

Answer 6

Everyone goes into that phase in life. The more you think about it, you get caught in web of your own thoughts. Just realize your human and probably everyone has gone or have been in that same position. Just believe in yourself and everything will fit in like a puzzle. By the way it's better to have smaller group of good friends and keep building as you head into college or in life.

Oh and if your interested in a girl that likes you, then whats the problem, she likes the way you are, don't change or try to over amplify your mojo to think you have to be cooler. Like you said, she already likes you, check and mate.

Answer 7

Your good dude. Your just young. You'll quit caring so much about "why" and just start reacting when you get a little older. Check out the websight Tuckermax.com. He's a horrible person, and you shouldn't imulate him, but it's a glimpse of how your brain will work when you get older and more comfortable being yourself, and quit caring how others percieve you. Enjoy!

Answer 8

U are the kinda person i relate to. dont change. u will be glad as u get older. ppl w common sense will trust u more than others. the girls that every guy wants will be interested in u in the future rather than ur friends.

Answer 9

I used to be that way...my advice take small steps..tommorow if all you do is smile at some one then you are heading in the right direction..everyday take another step, from smiling to saying hi, and eventually before you know it you will have a few people saying hi to you and wanting to get to know you...anyway good luck and remamber just smile....

Answer 10

I don't think you sound anti-social. You are just shy. Don't be so hard on yourself! Be yourself and things will work out.