Was he my best friend?

Question

I always thought we were best friends cause we could be away for months and meet again and we were the same as always. He was close with my family, would stay with me and i could tell him anything. Now he has new friends and hates me drinking cause i lose all self esteem and need reassurence hes my friend. this annoys him so he fights with me and sometimes says nasty things that i know he knows will hurt me! is this person my best friend or did he just use me to get all the things i give him which by the way was anything i had that he wanted! Ill always care for him but can i continue being his friend when i feel so hurt everytime i see him now!

i dont actually have a drink probably but he creates problems for me when im drunk and then he dont like the way i react!

Answer 1

For one, a story - sorry... you won't regret reading though - i hope...

My aunt has married a acholic. but why and why hasn't they divorce and i know my aunt doesn't like achoholics.. but why? Because she loves him no matter what..
done..

and thus, for your problem. I think a friend won't mind if you drink. But as a friend, i think he really should be encouraging you to stop and not to cause you to even think about " is he really my best friend?"
And, if a friend just reacts like that, then, i, i mean, if i were you, i would just like..... not even be friends with him. A best friend would always be with you, no matter what. If you're dead, if you're sad, if you're in jail, if you murdered, if you're an achoholic! It shouldn't hav the power to affect a person.
it really shouldn't. I so far, have not met a extremely true best friend.
As my friend saids: A True friend is one who walks in when others walk out.
I may not have found one, but, i can assure you that, my feelings are strong enough to tell you that, a friend is not just someone that is close to you. It's someone that supports you when you fall.

---------------EDIT-----------------
Well, i disagree with you - only one way,
i don't think as a friend, he should be using hurtful words to "harm" him or her, [ i think you (asker) are a girl right????lol] in such way. If he were to care for him/her, it would be a better idea to get together sometime and talk about it, or maybe even contact her parents. Using hurtful words is NOT a way to convience a friend that drinking is wrong. you're like saying, "dude, the law is sooo wrong, you dont have the right to drink, now stop drinking!"
This asker has his/her rights to drink. And yes, the friend has the right to say meanful things but it is not a correct way to convience a friend to stop drinking.


-sw33tbitterlife-

Answer 2

He might have been ( notice the past tense) your best friend. I wonder just what is more hurtful his watching you self-destruct with alcohol, or his saying things to you that are to make you realize what the heck you are doing to not only yourself but to the relationship.
I think you are wrecking any type of future with your friend. I don't blame him for trying to straighten you out, but he will soon realize he can not do it, and that you are the only one in control of you. Do something about it now!

Answer 3

One definition of an alcoholic is having a personality change when you drink, not the amount you drink, so yes you do have a drinking problem, and yes he's still your friend by standing by you and not dumping you.