would you give another chance to guy with so many problems?

Question

There is a guy,22 yo.his father is bastrard,which not just cheated on his mum, but also didnt tell her he already had a family in his country. When she found out,they divorced,but she stayed in his house and never got a job,so he is controling her all life by giving her a bit of money.The guy missed his dad when he was kid,dad never was really interested,he cared more about his bussines.the guy stopped going to school when he was 12, and for 5 years spent most of the time closed in house, watching tv,not having friends,not seeing how it goes in normal world.now,he is pathologicaly jealous,very insecure even tho he is good looking and very talented in music.but because he feels so insecure, he made his girlfriend feel like the last **** in the world many times.You know,that inside,he is a lovely person,but his father,and mother,which never got job and the fact he was lonely for few years,where most of us have fun with school friends , ****** him up. He can probably get better by

a therapy for many issues he has got, but hurt u many times,by treating you very very very bad. Would you give a chance to guy like that, or would you just let him in that ****. the problems he has are really really big

also,helping him means a lot of sacrificing, job for a bit of time, and another things. but you can make someones life much better, by standing by their side.so what would you do,if you love him.

Answer 1

Hell no!
Although you might feel sorry for him, those are not your problems. There is nothing you can do to help him. That is a job for a therapist (and that might take years). You might feel sorry for him now but later you will resent him. You should learn to love yourself, and feel compassion for yourself the way you feel for this person. Do you not think that you deserve some one without all of the baggage?

Answer 2

i was in a 7yr relationship w/ a guy who had a tough childhood.He witnessed his dad beat his mom on a daily basis.He witnessed him cheat on her.He beat him and his brother and sisters.His dad would ground him by making him lay in his bed for weeks without even being able to go to the bathroom.Now hes a grown man (29) he has a lot of issues. I know the sweeter side of him but his bad side takes over that.I tried to help him for 7 yrs and you know what......He didnt change one bit.Matter fact he turned out just like how his dad was.So if people are so traumatized like that sometimes thats just the way thier life is ganna stay.

Answer 3

I'd go on with life, find someone who will love you back and is capable of getting through their issues.

Answer 4

U need to check ur codependency issues here----my advice to you is back off----u need to take care of yourself.