Today I just found out that my friend ( overseas) got engaged and will be getting married in June of this year. I am so excited for her. She also told me she "did not bother to ask me to be a bride's maid because she knew that I was not gonna come" to the wedding. Yet still she is desperately trying to find another friend whom she wants her to be her maid of honour. I don't know what to do. I am happy for her but I feel a bit hurt because I thought we were closer. I even spent some time with her over the christmas holidays. Do you think I am being too sensitive?
Honestly, I was really looking forward to this because I knew sooner or later her boyfriend was gonna ask her. Knowing how close (I thought) we were. I would have definitely made a sacrifice.
2007-01-17 11:59:14 · 7 answers · asked by Lady Mandeville 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Honestly, I would be hurt too. Maybe she really thought it would put you in a position where you would feel obligated to travel overseas, that is a lot to ask someone to do.
Why don't you tell her that you feel bummed out that you aren't going to be a part of her wedding.
2007-01-17 12:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is just testing the waters to see if you would say that you don't mind the extra expense to come to her wedding. if she is desperately trying to find another person, i think she is begging you to say you'll come and want to be her bride's maid. if you can go, tell her so - ask her if that makes a difference of who she wants to be her bride's maid. let her know that you thought of her as true friend and if she wants you to be her bride's maid, you'll be there for her. let her make the final decision and i bet she'll be excited that you want to be part of her happy day. let us all know what happens. good luck to you and to her and her future husband.
2007-01-17 20:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just a misunderstanding, she did not ask you to be her bridesmaid, because she thought it would be too much to ask of you. It would require expensive travel, a dress, and bridesmaids are supposed to plan the bridal shower, and the last night girls party. Can you really afford to go overseas, and all the other expensives involved??? I think she did not ask you, because it was too much to ask of you (she said she did'nt think you wold come). If you are able, and willing to make those sacrifices, then tell her you can do it, I'm sure she would be thrilled, I'm sure she just thought it was too much money to exspect you to spend to be at her wedding, talk to her!!!
2007-01-17 20:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just tell her that you would be happy to come and participate in her wedding. Hopefully, once she knows you will come, she will ask you to be maid-of-honor.
2007-01-17 20:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by broadwayaprilandtiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have a right to be upset but also you have to think well she is my friend so I just have to forget about it atleast I get to be in the wedding
2007-01-17 20:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by smoresanimaluvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i belive that you shoudl tell her you know how your looking for a bridesmaid well if ypu want i could maybe be ur bridesmate ! tell he you would be glad to attend teh wedding! or maybe get someoen to hint her like back in middle school wehn we wanted to egt invited to something! good luck
2007-01-17 20:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by jessica93sz3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be all that close if she didn't think you'd go to her wedding.
2007-01-17 20:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋