ok, here's the deal.... Im 15 and have always gotten PERFECT A+ grades. Im first in my class of over 300. the thing is, im SO sick of people just seeing me as smart. i hardly have any friends that are really friends because everyone just uses me to help them with school work. ive never had a guy ask me out becuase they don't see me as anything but smart. i never get invited to do anything because that's all people see in me. WHAT SHOULD I DO??!!
2007-01-17 11:54:45 · 31 answers · asked by Sweetie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all, you should be very proud of yourself and never change who you are. You will be the one who benefits in the future.
Try joining some after school activities, clubs, sports, drama, etc. You will probably find plenty of new friends there who like you for yourself. Find friends who have things in common with you. Do not try to conform to the lifestyle of anyone else. But be friendly with everyone, smile, laugh, be a friend. Let others see who you are inside. Let them see that you know how to have fun, without lowering your standards.
The ones who use you just to help them with their school work, are NOT your friends. Do not go out of your way to impress them in any way. If you want to help them, that is entirely up to you, but do it with no expectations. Use wisdom when choosing friends and remember, you must first be a friend to get friends.
You are young, and you will be going to college , when all this will be a thing of the past. None of it will matter anymore. You are very smart and will go very far in life if you stay true to yourself, don't compromise, and use wisdom.
As far as boys, you have plenty of time. Sometimes these high school boys just distract you from what's really important. Make friends with some boys who share your interest and good grades. You never know, there might be that special someone right under your nose.
God Bless You!
2007-01-25 11:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by coolkatt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of extracurricular activities do you do? You should join some clubs at school or in your community that have nothing to do with academics. That way you can make some friends that already have something in common with you. Maybe try playing sports or get a job at a place you think is cool. Then people will have something to know you by besides your grades. And no matter what, remember that college is sooo different than high school. You'll be surrounded by lots of smart people (and dumb ones) but it's a great way to start over if high school's a drag. Hang in there!
2007-01-25 08:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Luvly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The so-called-friends would secretly love to be you and have things come so easily to them and be able to grasp the concepts of all their studies but here you are thinking that you are the only person in the world who isn't cool. There are times when these cool kids are going to grow up and lose their hair, become fat and ugly and they will still also be stupid.
If you think you have something to prove then put yourself out in the social scene. Let people see what you are capable of but don't let the pressures of being someone you're not turn you into someone you may later hate. Be yourself. If you think you are cool the way you are then so will they.
2007-01-25 10:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK sweetie frist relax. now find Ur self u said U r smart this is Ur quality. so many people want this quality but they still empty u r Lucky 4 u have it. let me help u to make u Ur own space. first u decide Ur own principle then look surrounding & try to get understand what kind of things happening surrounding u. Which quality people likes & try to get this quality in u. In beging this is not easy but when time increases u can have these quality. use simple formula 1)watch people 2) learn which quality can help u 3) & then carry it. in my past I also face this type of problem but with the help of this formula today I am a happy person with lots of joy. I belive one day u also make ur own space. But every time open ur eyes because someone always try to hit u by mentaly & in that time ur thinking power always help u.
2007-01-25 09:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by Bhushan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should just stand out and let everyone know that hey im smart but i can have fun as well go out and buy a new outfit go to school show it off make everyone envy you thats a good start and just understand your 15 a lot can happen over time dont worry things will perk up
2007-01-25 10:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by Cody Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be your self and invite people into your life have a party and invite all the People you know and get to know them better and they will get to know you better. since you are 15 you can also get a job and a few places and that would help you make Friends faster ( i know I've done it) ant this would also help you impress people at your school and them they will want to be your friend. the most important this always is to be yourself.
Good Luck
2007-01-25 01:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by Bruce G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, last year this was my same exact situation. But im telling you it's best for you not to change for anybody. You just have to stop letting people walk on you, thats how it helped me. I got to show them who I really am, just be more outgoing, talk to people that you never talk to, thats what i did, and now no one uses me, i have quite a few friends, and i still get straight A's. Just be yourself and eventually people will realize that your not only smart. Gooobye and goodluck!
2007-01-21 17:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by Desperation.Destruciton.Despair. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cuz you're smart doesnt mean you're always a geek or a nerd or a dweeb... U just have to be able to keep up with the latest trends and fashion and the latest news of gossip. And about the guys asking you out part... just leave it someday someone will like you for who you are.
2007-01-25 10:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by SuWizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats. You are doing good and don't change for anyone. Try to be more friendly and outgoing. Hang with the people who are doing well.
As you get older you will realize that people with try to avoid someone like you for several reasons. They may feel intimidated, jealous or just "haters". Not that you are a bad person. just that they feel like they don't measure up. Don't let that deter you from doing well. Just be yourself and make sure you are not doing anything to be a turn off. All the best in your studies.
2007-01-17 12:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be the one who grows up a shines. The other kids like the football jocks they will do things like work on construction sites. And the girls that have such a wonderful life right now will be pregnant and still be no where by the time they are 30. So you hang in their and keep going. You will be the one who is popular when it really counts.;)
2007-01-17 12:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by rosebud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋