So is going to the bar to relax and get away from stress and husband wrong? Am going alone...just wanted to know if this was a bad sign.
2007-01-17 11:46:28 · 21 answers · asked by LuLu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it's fine, I do this all the time, if it's a local bar and you know most of the people there and you do not go to pick up anyone or go home with anyone, what's the big deal? I am engaged to a very well know physician in a small town and I go to the local bar by myself once in a while, I conduct myself with dignity and people there know we are together, so I just chat, have a drink or two, and go home.
2007-01-17 11:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think if you're married, it depends on the comfort of your husband if you hit the bars alone. I think you have to respect each other and if he doesn't want you hitting the bars alone than that means he doesn't either. If you are trying to 'get away' from him....that is a pretty bad sign.
As a single person I only hit the bar alone when I am genuinely in the mood to see a game and have a beer. Sometimes you just want to be alone. On those nights, I try to keep my eyes on the screen and stay close to the bartender and even than you will find you can't be left alone. I just say I am here to watch the game and leave it at that. I have two places I like to go and have gotten to know the staff. For me, it isn't different than going to catch a movie alone, which I enjoy, and I don't lack company, I just want to be alone sometimes. Anyway, I am single, though. I also do this to escape a hectic day, not to get away from a significant other. I am pretty outgoing and when I actually don't want to talk about a rough day someone thinks I'm mad or something - so I go get some space. When I have a boyfriend, I still do the same thing but only to the usual place, try not to do it as often and introduce him to the staff at some point, but if I were married and it bothered my husband that much because he worried, I would tell him to come along. If you are trying to escape your husband there may be problems.
2007-01-17 19:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it bad to want time alone sometimes. Just be aware that by being a woman at a bar alone you may be sending out signals to other men that you are looking, which may or may not be the case. There are other options besides a bar to spend time alone. I guess its a bad sign if you always prefer to go alone over going with your husband.
2007-01-17 20:50:21 · answer #3 · answered by Ella727 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married women (or men) should not go to bars without their spouses. Bars are used as places to pick people up and if you're married then you shouldn't be in that situation. Like someone ese said...if you want to relax go get a manicure or facial or something like that. Going to a bar alone just sends out the wrong impression...to your husband and to others at the bar.
2007-01-17 19:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes! There is nothing in abar but men and booze....not that relaxing if your happily married. Im personally annoyed when men hit on me b/c i have a ring and im madly in love with my hubby! Go for a walk or go to a movie by yourself, anywhere really besides the bar, and dont even think about going to a club. How would you feel if your husband was doing the same thing!
2007-01-17 19:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by marinewife 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are making it look like you are available to guys who are also at the bar. It is also sending your husband a message that you would rather spend your free time alone without him than doing something fun with him. Eventually he might assume you are having an affair as well...
2007-01-17 20:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not want my wife to go to a bar alone; there is a lot you are not telling in this question, maybe you should talk to your husband...
2007-01-17 19:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
absolutely wrong! you will only end up getting in trouble.....! bars are for singles scene NOt married men or women ALONE! trust me on this one.........people there are always "looking"? guys may just assume you are not happy at home....and flirt or con you good.....flatter you etc.........stay home, get in the tub, put on some music lights some candles and RELAX there!
2007-01-17 20:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by STARZ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, a married woman shouldn't go to a bar alone- it's inappropriate. Go get your nails done or go to the spa if you want to relax. Shop, see a movie, have dinner with friends.
2007-01-17 19:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Yes using the buddy system works best because if something happens to you the other friend can help out.... rather be safe than sorry =]
2007-01-17 19:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋