Everytime I go to a house party or go to a bar I feel layed back most of the time,I just sit there and keep myself to myself,and sometimes I feel paranoid,and I feel like no one has no time for me.
I would really love to blend in,but I just dont know
how. I do feel awful about it,I would love to blend in with everyone. How can I help myself on this?
Please you guys,please give me advise. Thank YYou's. x x x
2007-01-17 11:39:57 · 8 answers · asked by DollyFan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like social anxiety disorder. Me and hubby both are like that to different degrees...it's amazing we got together!...lol What I found is the best thing to do is have one drink to loosen up (but not act like a drunken lunatic!) and then just pick someone to talk to. Before you know it you'll stop feeling paranoid and start having fun!
2007-01-17 11:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like you at parties and would hate my husband leaving my side as he is so comfortable making small talk with other people - he taught me to open up to other people and ask them questions people love talking about themselves and once you find a common ground with people you make friends easily and it makes these events so much more pleasurable - just start small - and try and remember that there are probably loads of people in the same bar who feel the same as you - but just have the confidence to get out there and make the effort, good luck, you can do it :o)
2007-01-21 17:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by zsphodge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go with friends, even if they have girlfriends with them. If you look unsociable or if you just sit and stare at people, you might look odd or even a perve! Remb, some girls like being chatted up, some just want to talk. Just dont drink too much or people will just think youre a drunk. Try go to a social club where everyone has the same interests, even if you just talk to the guys at least others will see you as friendly.
Good luck! x
2007-01-17 19:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by ~Kitana~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a couple of drinks to loosen up a little. It sounds like you have anxiety disorder with being in public or maybe you are shy??
2007-01-17 19:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time you go check out the way you present you self your looks and clothing have a lot to do with the way you present your self so try and look more appealing to be approached.
2007-01-17 19:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by miss out spoken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nxt time u r goin out prepare yourself well , get yourself something new to wear , if u look good u feel good , if u feel good n look good u will b more confident in yourself , so others will notice the new confident u ,, good luck x
2007-01-18 11:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the marriage and divorce connection?
2007-01-20 17:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Noadonis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself and don't worry about what everyone else thinks
2007-01-17 19:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋