my x husband and i went to a mediator for custody and child support. in the agreement we both signed it states i have full physical and sole legal custody of the children in the agreement it states i make all decisions concerning the kids myself other than major medical procedures. ive been overlooking A LOT of things he does and lets happen with the kids but now he's letting them go to church with his girlfriends parents which doesnt seem bad but i dont like the way the church teaches and we already go to church. that chuch goes against many things mine teaches. ive told him several times i dont want the kids going to the church and he refuses to listen (he doesnt even go to the church himself) he also didnt petition for visitation i let him get the kids every other sat and they only spend one night there. (thats his decision not to get them more than that) what legal action can i take? i dont want them to stop seeing their dad but i dont want them going to that church either.
2007-01-17 11:37:34 · 4 answers · asked by butter_cream1981 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well it is his time and if he wants them to go to that church thats his right. They are not being harmed in any way. I would not push it to much because if you do and he does take you to court he will get them from friday at 6 till sunday at 6. Then you really have no control. This really doesnt seem to be about the kids but more about your control issues, let it go.
2007-01-18 07:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by J&A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not much right now. Since you didnt say this went to court yet Im taking it as it hasnt. So right now everything is on a verbal agreement between you two til a court makes it binding and final. You can stop the overnights but that is probably going to lead to bigger problems later on. You both can back out on the agreement before it reaches court. Chances are you will get custody and support and the judge will grant him visitation rights whether he uses them or not. Most divorced parents would be glad hes at least getting them to church even though the church itself may violate their own religion which is probably the way the courts would look at it. The courts would probably say it would broaden the childs mind to see different religions but most of all they would tell you that dad can do whatever as long as its within good tatse when the kids are with him just like when the kids are with you and in this case you two would have to work it out amongst yourselfs. There is nothing legally you can do to stop him, sorry
2007-01-17 11:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I study alot of Legal Aid and law but i am not expert! But have you consider changing Sat to Friday night and get them back Sat night? Or change the times 9:00 am Sat and you get them back at 9:00 am Sunday that way they can still go to church with you every Sunday. Tell him you will even pick them up on Sunday so you won;t put him out! Last but not least go to the Juvenile Court and Type out And ask the judge TO ORDER ( just how I have it typed ) make sure your case # is on there also )that your ex-husband needs to respect your sole legal rights and where it states I make all decisions concerning the kids(under line where it states those things at in your custody papers. Tell them he does not go to church and he is disrespect there mother by not following her rights of sole custody of there children and the up bringing of there Christianity that they have been raised by and these are two different types of religion and explain what your concern is and how it's different and get it notarized and take it to the children court and have them stamp it and have him ORDER IT that they have there own church and believes and it is confusing to them! Hope this helps and GOD Bless
2007-01-17 13:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by dctalk30s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had a child with a man that was a product of that church. You didnt mind then. When the children are with him he has the right to take them to any church of his choice. Sounds to me you are just freaking out because its an area of the kids life you cant control. If the church doesnt harm the children in any way then he has every right to take them and you cant control that. Sounds as if you need to seek a little divine advice and accept the father is a parent too and needs to show a little of his beleifs to his children.
2007-01-17 11:50:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋