I just don't understand why I can't be confident with the decisions I make in my life regarding relationships. Even though I know its time to end a relationship, I keep on second guessing myself. Am I doing the right thing? Did I try hard enough in the relationship? Am I ever going to meet anyone else I can get along with. I can't stand the torture I put myself through! Does anyone else feel this way???
2007-01-17 11:26:37 · 6 answers · asked by Amanda80 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to spend some time alone, getting to konw your self and all the things you like and dont like. When you KNOW your WORTH you wont second guess what you already know.
2007-01-17 11:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ciya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I know I have felt this way at times.
It is normal to pick everything apart to analyze it, or to wonder what could have been.
Remember that you are not the only one in your relationships, so you are not 100% responsible for everything that happened. If you feel you did make a mistake, learn from it to make your next relationship better.
We also tend to distort the relationship after it has ended, conveniently forgetting the good or the bad.
The best way to learn to let go of a relationship is to truly believe that you have given it your all, but it is not the right relationship for you anymore. If you hang on to someone okay for you, you will never find the wonderful one.
Give your all to your relationships, and never compromise who you are. You will have fewer regrets.
Good luck with everything, and I hope this helps. :)
2007-01-17 11:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You betcha! I'm in the same boat right now. I really try to give it to God and let him take over. It's so hard though. I feel so much pain and I'm scared to death.
I know what's right in my heart, it's hard getting my mind to feel the same way my heart does. I also try to go somewhere really quiet and pray or meditate. I'm doing a lot of soul searching. A lot of people I love will be effected with the decision I make. I must look at the whole picture then with God's wisdom, I will make the right choice.
You will be ok, just listen to your inner voice, like I try to do. It's usually right. Be patient and just listen....
2007-01-17 11:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by GreenIce10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its common to question our decisions, when we don't trust ourselves, because we really don't know what a good relationship is suppose to be, and therefor don't see it even if it's right in front of us, we also don't see what is bad either, as we make excuses for people we shouldn't, we put up with alot of junk we shouldn't because we never learned how to select a good man, and we kept the bad ones, hoping things would change. with time and wisdom u too will learn good from bad. may only come after alot of pain and hurt.
2007-01-17 11:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something is not working for you, you should move on with no second guessing no regrets. Make a decision and follow thru, know what you want and look for those things in a man/relationship and do not settle.
2007-01-17 11:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by Forever_Young 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worryits common for girls
2007-01-17 11:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by catch_me_if_you_can♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋