My fiance is the most romantic, beautiful man I've ever met. He has two sons from a short young marraige. I have no kids. I'm always bothered, he doesn't show me nothing less than all his love and attension. He's very emotional, passionate and family oriented. He's all about his sons and being a great father from his bad experience of his divorced parents. I always feel that he still loves her. Once he went on me after one of his games, he plays arena ball. I told him one of my girls said his wife was after these men while her sons was pulling her in the other direction. He yelled at me saying don't talk about his sons mother! That put so much issues with in me. Sometimes I feel like he tries to show off like he's tring to prove something. It shouldn't matter. She is not so attractive at all, she seems childish quite and sly. She cheated and even though he still tried she didn't want him and he painfully initiated the divorce. A year later it's me. What do you think divorcee's?
2007-01-17 11:21:08 · 3 answers · asked by Smile 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He probably does still love her. He may never stop. From what you wrote, it sounds like he really wants a future with you, but the hurt of his divorce is still very fresh. Give it some time and remember to never say anything bad about his wife in front of him or the boys. The last thing you need is to be seen as the "bad guy" whether you intended that or not.
2007-01-17 11:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by StormyC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that if you ever loved someone you will always love that person, but that does not mean you should be with that person. You should respect his feelings for his ex, they have a bond regardless they created two kids together and like you mentioned she pretty much left him he just made it final by filing for the divorce. He obviously wants to have a good relationship with his ex for the sake of his sons and maybe that includes not having the woman he's with talk negatively about his sons' mother, maybe he feels like you'll do that in front of his kids. If you are going to be with him you have to respect how he feels and he'll appreciate you more.
2007-01-17 11:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by Forever_Young 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time ask him what his problem is, your his wife and you are entitled to know, tell him he shouldn't be defensive and tell him to stop acting like she is married to him and that your his wife.
2007-01-17 11:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋