Can you get depressed about wanting a baby?

Question

I'm wanting a baby but hubby don't.
Its all i think about
and during the day i don't want to do anything i don't want to go anywhere.
I don't know what to do
(HELP)

Answer 1

I have two boys and with both pregnancies I wanted them to be girls. So now I wish I could have a 3rd baby and have that be a girl but I got an IUD because I am afraid of it being another boy, plus other reasons. It is common to get depressed but please keep this in mind. Depression can cause you to not be able to get pregnant. Now from what you said your hubby isn't ready. Perhaps he could give you a reason as to why? You and him have to talk about it. Seek outside help if need be. You must think if he doesn't want children and you do perhaps you may not be in the type of relationship you want to be in. It takes two to decide on a baby if you do it the right way. And if he isn't up for it but does it just for you, how can you be so sure he would be the father you need? Factor those in and perhaps you will find a solution. Good luck, and hopefully we'll see you posting pregnancy questions soon if it works out for you...lemme know!

Answer 2

I have had the same thoughts and I want you to know that you married him for him so he is obviously a good man so you should find out what his reasons are. But about you having these feelings There is nothing I can say to make you feel better because I had been wanting a baby for so long while me and my husband dated , for five years, he always said no hell no and I just prayed that we would end up pregnant then one time after we got married last march i thought I was prego and it ended up we weren't so then i got so depressed so so very depressed and there was nothing anyone could say to make you feel better and i didn't even believe people could be depressed i thought it was fake until i became so sad about it then I just had to get over it and we talked about when exactly we would be having a baby. We are waiting to build our house and be debt free. So think about if you are really prepared like do you have a house? are you in alot of debt? where will the baby go to daycare? are you emotionally and physically ready for a baby? OH and one thing that helped was keeping my newborn nephew overnight WOW what a workout!!!! you just have to talk about it and pray real hard sometimes unanswered prayers are good as in my case i don't know what i would have done if we were already prego! bless you!

Answer 3

Yes you can for sure get depressed! I am going through the same thing, I have 2 boys and I want another baby so bad. Its all I think about, it hurts so bad to see pregnant women on tv, or babies crawling around. It seems like every time I turn on the tv a women is telling her hubby that shes pregnant. My husband wants more children but not right now, he wants to be more financially secure. I do agree that you can get depressed because I think about having a baby about 50 percent of the day and it takes a toll on you emotionally. I get so sad and have even cried because I cant have one right now. I guess i will just have to wait until the time is right.

Answer 4

Yea u sure can. I was like that before. I got to where when i took a pregnancy test and it was negative, that I would cry all day long, wouldn't eat anything, and wouldn't leave home. Not to mention that all of my friends from high school are pregnant now, and I'm not. I know exactly how you feel. The thing that helped me the most was getting on the internet and searching for the best ways to conceive. Ever since then, it hasn't been half as hard on me as it was. That, and the support my husband gave me. He told me that it just wasn't time for us to have a baby yet, and when the time is right then it will happen. I know its hard, but it helps alot, and support from your partner will make it that much easier. If you want to u can email me at [e-mail] Good luck to you and best wishes!

Answer 5

First things first you and your husband really need to sit down and have a heart to heart talk.Open up to each other don't argue listen.See why he don't want to have a baby maybe its timing.Some men are very scared of the thought of being a father sometimes you have to put there fears at ease.And of course you can get depressed its a very big decision for some women its the biggest one of there life.My heart goes out to you it truly does just have faith stress is not good on your body or your marriage.

Answer 6

i definitely think you can get depressed... before i finally fell pregnant with my Little girl i was trying to fall for three years.. that wasn't so bad...then i saw a gyno...that took another two years for him to finally work out the prob and put me on fertility pills but i was shocking in the last year before i fell...i hired true story baby movies every nite i couldn't sleep i just watched movies over and over and wouldn't get to sleep till the next day and I'd laugh with excitement then cry and cry if i did leave the house i would wait in the car anywhere we went and I'd make my partner go into the shops and I'd just watch the people with babies walk past and I'd cry again its all i could think about...my insides actually hurt i was so upset. it was horrible I've never felt pain like that before or since i just hope you and Ur partner work it out because i know how badly the need for a baby is so yes i do think people can be very depressed over something like that. good luck

Answer 7

Has he set a time frame of when he would like to have one? If he wants to wait a year or two... just focus on working and preparing your home and body for when the time comes. If he never wants one, you should not be with him because you will resent him for the rest of your life. Talk to him about this.. maybe he is just scared and once it actually happens all will work out.

Answer 8

The best advice i can give you, is for you to talk with your husband. you can put a lot of strain in the marriage, and on the household. Is there any reason why he dose not want a baby?

Answer 9

we both want a baby, if u think u r depressed now wait, weve been ttc for 33 mos, charted for 16 mos, 5 mos of clomid, 2 mos of femara, 3 iuis, 2 surgeries, lost 3 babies, have endomertriosis, pcos and hydrosalpinx, weight is all on me, onto ivf!!

Answer 10

you really have to discuss this with your husband. having a baby is such a major decision it can't be made by one person. if you absolutely can't agree then I guess you need to start looking at whether you want to stay together. think about counselling too.