Why do so many people think children are 'disposable'?

Question

Mom relinquished parental rights and now step mom thinks not her responsibility. Seems a lot of people think parenting is just for when they feel like it.
confuses me. disgusts me. Any ideas of why so many people do this?

Answer 1

Those that do were usually coddled by their own parents. They now put their own desires before that of anyone else. It's sad, but parents create this kind of bad parent. The same parents who won't allow their children to face consequences at school...won't allow schools to give their little darlings bad grades, even though they are deserved...are quick to sue anyone who infringes on Muffy's right to do anything...who pay all fines and never impose consequences. They have created monsters of selfishness.

Answer 2

I think that people sometimes use children to get at people.
Like the mom's give up to have a party life and then dad's just think that they can come and go, Girlfriends and step moms like the fact that their mans kids are with them and not the mother and the boyfriends and step dad are a little diffrent if they know that there are kids then they are there for one of two reasons they are trying to get some or they really like the girl.
But that is just my thought!

People just don't care anymore and really dont think about the child getting hurt while they do whatever!!!

Answer 3

You mean children aren't disposable? That's a new one! Seriosly, I honestly have no clue why people do it. Maybe it's apathy, a fear of responsibility, insecurity, lack of morals, or a combination. Unfortunately, the only thing I'm sure of is people see how their own lives suffer and force that suffering on others, whether they mean to or not. People chose to refrain from punishing their kids back in the 60's*, so the generation has become deteriorated with ideas of grandeur and selfishness. That, in turn, gets thrown in the face of the subsequent generation. I forsee a nasty cycle if this issue is not corrected.

*(In no way does this include ALL people from the 60's. This is a fact of a large portion of the poulation, but not all and, perhaps, not even most.)

Answer 4

I am what people call a "stepmother"- not a term I care for, and not just because of the fairy tale stereotype. I prefer to just be called mother. Simple truth: No one should ever, ever marry a person with children, or even get involved with them, unless they are willing to love that child as their own. Even if the other parent makes it difficult. Easy? No. But necessary. People have become so casual in the way they move in and out of relationships. Even marriage is not necessarily viewed as a lifetime commitment- a lot of people go into it with their fingers crossed, thinking they can always get out of it. But to love a child and open yourself to their love, to let yourself be needed by them and make a vow to devote yourself to them FOREVER- no walking away from that. So a lot of people just don't do it. They close off their hearts. Both "natural" and "step" parents do this when they are more interested in themselves than in anyone else. Know what? THEY LOSE! Jesus said, "Whatsoever you do to the least of these, you do to Me."

Answer 5

why do so many right wing religious nuts fail to realize that abortions were at a low during the clinton administration and have increased everyyear under Bush. The Rep party doesn't ever plan on overturning Roe V Wade because Right wing Voters vote Republican because they think they will. I think most people will agree that a fetus capable of life outside the body is life but a group of cells the size of a pin head which no definative structure of means of preservation is not a life.

Answer 6

Because adults in general are very self-involved these days and want only to do what they want to do.Hell, PEOPLE over the age of ten are getting that way these days! Their kids sometimes become that way as well, and the cycle perpetuates. I personally think people should have to take a polygraphed test before they can become parents, and if they fail it, they should be sterilized. Parenting is the hardest and most important job in the world. Ironically, it's also the easiest job to get. You just have to have the rubber break once at the right time, and it can be yours.

Answer 7

This wouldn't be me in anyway, I actually love working with the kindergartners, some of those kids don't come from good homes and act out on some of the other kids, so questions are very helpful. If I could I would adopt all of those kids. But, as for your question, people don't realize that having a child is a full time job, they believe it is a part-time job or just on days they feel like it.

Answer 8

its because it is easy these days to not have a need to feel that you are responsible for the decisions that you make, even if you were an "accident" your mother chose to have sex then also made the decision to have you, your stepmother made the decision to adopt you and your mother might have thought that it was the right thing to do at the time but now your step mom is having problems with your dad and now she might feel that you are not her responsibility. But the situation might be more complicated than that just remember that there are no easy questions. You should also Probably talk to your dad about it.

Answer 9

People are selfish by nature. Then they have kids, and things change. Suddenly youre responsible for another life and the NORMAL GOOD PERSON just kindof instinctly start putting theyre child first. This is how it should be. Some people just dont get over their selfishness. You CANT be selfish and have kids at the same time. This is not an excuse for these people, its just a reason maybe. I share your disgust.

Answer 10

There are so many reasons why people do this. Don't dwell on irresponsible, selfish, selfcentered people. If this has happened to you be assertive and talk to your parents, you have the right to know why so that you can go on with your life. Have your caregiver go to family court and apply for child support for you. It's obvious that you are the more mature one so get your child support money and open a bank account so that you can save for college and have a better chance in life. God bless, good luck.