How many woman out there think that it's good to wait until marriage to seriously get invovled with a guy? Well for me I want to wait because of religious reasons. Do anyone think that waiting for the one that God sends is good for woman of our society. Even though I know society and media widely accepts pre-marital relations as being good. Tell me what you think ladies.
2007-01-17 10:57:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. Why not. Pre-martial relations don't make you bad. It just means that you have standers and you plain on standing buy them. That's great. You will know when Mr. right comes along. He will know too. Sense your going that way I suggest to you, don't find a man of this world, you know someone living in the world. Someone who is living for God. Because a God man will wait, a true God man, who lives for the lord, in not the world. A man from the world will try to push you, or do it with someone else with out you knowing. A God man will prey if he has urges to have sex, just like you. So do what you believe in. In your OK. Nothing wrong with waiting. God bless you.
2007-01-17 11:16:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think the decision to have sex is as casual as purchasing shoes or a car. People treat it that way and then they end up with hurt feelings, low self esteem, unplanned pregnancies, baby mama/daddy drama, STDs, etc.
I started having sex in college, I definitely wish I had waited until i was married. I believe God's ways are perfect and good for any man/woman in any society/culture, when you do it his way you don't experience the heartache, guilt or the rejection when you give yourself to someone who does not deserve you.
And although sex is pleasurable it was created for the purpose of procreation, and in my opinion only married couples should have children, the reason sex was made for married couples. Now we have all these men with kids by countless numbers of women, people with the same blood don't even know eachother, kids with parents who don't care about eachother hardly even know eachother. Its just crazy...
and if wait until you are married it will be good to you no matter what b/c you have nothing to compare it to.
2007-01-17 19:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by Forever_Young 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think waiting for the one God send is the only way to ever have a successful relationship. I was in an abusive marriage and got out of it because of my daughter. After that i dated a few guys that weren't worth anything until i finally decided to put my trust in God and asked him to send the one i was meant to be with. I asked him to let me know hes the one by having him bring flowers in the first date, I've never gotten first date flowers. Finally i ran into an old acquaintance from high school and he asked me on a date, and he showed up on my doorstep with flowers!!!!!! We got married 5 months later and I'm truly happier then i have ever been, my daughter loves him and I thank God every night for him. Put your trust in God with everything u do and He WILL work it out.....stay strong sista and good luck!!!!
2007-01-17 19:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by marinewife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's better to test drive a car before you buy it, and sex is such an important part of marriage, I'd really hate to have to marry a guy before having sex with him and find out he really sucks at it, is a pig about it, or worse, is actually gay. Then you gotta deal with divorce, but you can't do that either because of the very reason you waited to have sex until marriage in the first place- because of what you read in the bible, or what someone told you you had to do. I think it's ridiculous to consider entering a lifelong commitment with someone you hardly know. And let's face it, you don't know someone until you wake up next to them every day!
2007-01-17 19:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally think it's up to the individual people. It's personal choice. Some like to save themselves for marriage but l think it's a good idea to try before you buy. Otherwise how would you know if you're compatible or not.
2007-01-17 19:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are making the right choice. With so many STD's and single mother, the only safe sex is inside of marriage. I waited to have sex with my husband until our wedding night and I haven't regreted it. We have a normal, healthy and very active sex life. I was nervous the first time, but he is someone I love, care about and someone I made a commitment to. You cannot be shy around your husband. Good luck.
2007-01-17 19:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by Muslimah 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if you can wait until you are married then i applaud you. it is an extremely difficult task. most people dont respect that concept anymore. wait if you can... dont worry about what anyone else thinks. stick by your morals. they will get you further than other peoples opinions. you have a good head on your shoulders.
2007-01-17 19:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by punkins_wife121705 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%! I did and it was wonderful when I finally did! Although I wish he would have waited for me! It's would have been better for me if he would have waited!!! Keep going strong!
2007-01-17 19:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by STARS 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't buy a pair of shoes without trying them on first!
2007-01-17 19:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you have a great point of view,wise choice
2007-01-17 19:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋