we was engaged, waiting to finish my study to get married.
I felt in some way he change in last month with me ,he doesn’t want to get married,and he always fight with me all of that’s of curse on the phone.
after we got married I was looking in his mail I found he was on a relationship with another woman. I found a picture for her and him
And mails that’s proof he was in a relationship with her.we talked and he told me that was in the past and we was far away from each other for 3 years that’s why and since we got married I never cheat on u and I will not and he promise me.
Since that I can NOT trust him im trying but I cant,and we have a baby now what can I do?and im lonely in this country all my family and my friends in different country.
I’ve been here for a year and I got pregnant right away after I got married.
2007-01-17 10:51:28 · 16 answers · asked by M-A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-01-17 10:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are going through a tough time right now and as much as you may not want to see you need to think about yourself and your baby. It can be tough being alone and away from family but you need to join a group in your area where you can go to talk about how you feel. I know that you can not leave until you finish school so hang in there and talk to someone you trust. If you feel that he is cheating on you do not wait for him to tell you because he will never admit it. It also sounds as if he is getting more violent so I want you to if he ever goes to touch you in a way you do not feel comfortable with leave talk the baby and leave because if he does it once he will do it again and it will only get worse.
2007-01-17 11:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ying Yang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how recent are the emials? Is he still in contact with her? That in a way is cheating. It is hard to not be with your family. Try to find some things to keep you busy. How does he act? If he acts ok then maybe you just have too much time on your hands. If the baby does not keep you busy enough maybe you could try to take a parenting or some other kind of class on the internet or either get a job so you can make some friends of your own. The more you get involved maybe you will be happier where you are.
2007-01-17 10:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by healergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never go anywhere that's too far away from your family, especially another country. This would be giving your husband too much leverage over your life without you having anyone to support you when in need like now. It may be that you have to return home if you are thinking of you & your baby's best interest and happiness. This is a decision, only you can make without having second thoughts on making a mistake.
2007-01-17 11:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so glad that you are educated, because if you werent, I would have an extremely troubled time deciphering your garble.To answer your question, go home. Ask hubby if he wants the child, if so, allow him to have full custody. Go home and find someone that you can actually trust, someone that has more integrity than your husband. Do not blame your husband for your misfortune, because you also decided to continue the relationship and get pregnant by this man.So its really just as much as your fault to be in this unagreeable situation.
2007-01-17 10:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds very difficult and I sympathize with you... there is a lot of difficulty in living a very great distance from your family and the country you grew up in.... all of your supports were left behind when you moved to your new country. My suggestion is to find a women's group or transition house where you can talk to a counselor who is trained in working with women who have issues similar to yours. I am not suggesting you speak to an immigration or settlement worker, because sometimes they do not have the same training. A good women's counselor will help you to sort out your feelings and can help you get the kind of counseling you need.
God bless!
2007-01-17 11:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry men are jerks...but then again so are the women who have affairs with them...Maybe you should take a trip home to be with your family a little bit and get your head together. You have an education your a smart women. Your life is not over.
And no you can NOT trust him...trust is earned and it may take a while for him to earn it.
Good luck.
2007-01-17 10:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you think having a baby would change your relationship? Some women should get to know their partners a little more before they marry them and have children. You will just have to see what happens. You can either trust what he says or be forever suspicious. I hope he treats you well.
2007-01-17 10:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do now is wait and see. So maybe what he told you was true.....you really need to consider that. Maybe he is not cheating on you. For your baby's sake, you really need to have paitence and wait. If he is cheating on you, sooner or later it'll come out and you'll find out about it. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-17 10:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I am so sorry for you being so miserable. I think, just give it some time, he may be telling the truth...only time will tell. You have to think about the child now, I truly hope it works out for you.
2007-01-17 10:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by lavachk1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That is so sad. Maybe you should just talk it out. If not, it isn't fair for your child to live with a father who cheats on you.
2007-01-17 10:56:30 · answer #11 · answered by curiousityandthecat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋