I'm a widower with two childs and recently started a new relation with a single mother of one. My kids just can't get along with them. Please, some advice will be greatly appreciated
2007-01-17 10:41:05 · 5 answers · asked by Stillstanding 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wat u can do for ur gf and ur kids is to get them to spend some time alone together.
get them to know each other better so that they will not dislike her...
most kids that r like that cuz they beleive that this new person that comes into ur life is going to take their place and ur wife's old place.
u also need to talk to them (ur kids) about the new gf.
tell them how u feel about her and let them understand.
but be sure to let them talk about their feelings toward her.
i hope this helps!! XD
good luck
2007-01-17 11:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by dance_babe_xoxoxox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first make sure that every time she's around them that it is positive.......it would really help if i knew how old the children were. But anyways, go on trips together, to the store, etc.....Show them how much fun it is to be around her.....And just give them their room, ( the children and her)....Children are a lot smarter than we give them credit for, hopefully they'll come around. More than likely they still miss their mother and may feel some resentment toward you for having another woman around..Show them how happy you are with her, give them room and give them love........Sorry for you lost, and i wish you the best in life and love........:)
2007-01-17 18:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by pitbull292006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same place in a way, my husband have two daughters and I have one daughter, Now the thing is my 1 daughter just turned 21 years-old and on her own, but my two step daughters are the ages of 11 yrs-old and 10 yrs-old and I am married to their dad.
Now in the begining it was kind of hard, the girls were like 3 & 4 yrs-old then, and they did not want to get to know at first, why? because I was the new woman in daddy's life and I am trying to take daddy away from them and take momma's place.
I made sure that my husband (boyfriend then) did not force the girls to speak with me, I let them come to me when they were ready, in a way. I would always say hello, and when I had conversations with them, they were not at them, but with them, See people do not realize it but children know when someone is being phoney with them, or when someone do not want to be bothered with them and is only going through the motions with them.
I would come get them when their dad was at work and take them on bike rides, or take them to the park just the three of us. when they talked to me I listened to them, and by all means it took time.
the one thing that you have to do is listen to your children and really hear what it is they are telling you, sometimes we fall for someone who does not really want our children. (not to say that is your situation or anything).
If you think that you are going to marry this woman in the future then, they should spend sometime with her on their own, so that they can get to know each other in their own way, and it will take some time.....
your children is worth it it because this will be the person you will have at your side helping you to raise your children.
2007-01-17 18:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kids feel threatened by your new gf and her kids. Sit them down and explain to them that no one will ever replace them in your heart. Make sure to give them a little extra attention as well.
2007-01-17 18:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by Amigurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just grateful that you didn't have more "childs"... I weep for the future... *sigh*
2007-01-17 18:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by work_thenplay 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋