My childrens father wants to take our 2yr. old and 4 month old to Florida this summer. I think the baby is too young. The kids haven't seen their grandma for a long time. He wants to give me a break so i can go to school and stuff. He feels like he can't really make it out here in NJ, so he believes he can make it in florida. he's family is over there. He wants me to see the kids on my vacations from work. So when he has things settled down there, he'll call me to come down in Florida. we're supposed to be a family, a couple, why can't we struggle together? Why can't we go down in florida together and do things? I'm thinking he wants a break from me. I mean, a month ago he did say, oh he don't have feelings for me anymore, the feelings he has for me is like a sister. We've been together for 3yrs. I don't like this whole idea of his, i told him he can go to Florida by himself, but he feels like i'm keeping the kids from him. What do you think?
2007-01-17 10:40:21 · 7 answers · asked by sjrosario82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds a little disconcerting to me. I think if you are a family, you should stick together. I definitely wouldn't let him take my kids off without me to another state.
I'm wondering if he's met someone there and is trying to get there without you. I'm wondering if he will EVER call you to come down there. It sounds too fishy to me.
2007-01-17 10:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it you are not married.... OK, do not let him take those kids.
Consult an attorney now - you may be in for a fight. Some even give the first consultation for free. If not that, find a counselor, pastor etc. You do need to know your legal rights about the kids. Whose names are on the birth certificates? This relationship is over and you need to think about you and the kids.
Call the state office that handles child support, let them know what is going on. They can help you establish legal paternity if necessary and they can also help you get some money out of him to help with the kids. You can even set up visitation for him, ( ON YOUR TERMS).... DO NOT feel sorry for him and let off that hook. You are trying to make a better life for you and your kids. If he takes them, you may never even see them again. If he is struggling in NJ, what the heck is he going to do with two small kids in FL? He wants to use grandma as a babysitter-- bet grandma does not even know of his plans.... You do not know what will happen if he goes down there. DO not let him take those kids.
2007-01-17 19:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by juneaulady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take I-95 South......but the kids will stay right there in New Jersey with you. He must be out of his mind to think a Mother would let him take her children like that. If all of you go, then fine....otherwise, he needs to go alone!
2007-01-17 19:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perfect example of why you should get married before you have kids.
sounds like you are going to have to hire an attorney and get custody of your own kids, with him paying you child support and visitation when he goes to Florida.
are you willing to move to Flordia? if so tell him that you want to go too so that neither of you have to be without the kids and you can try to make it there with him.
2007-01-17 18:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by bmoline 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's lost his damn mind to even suggest such an insane thing to you. If he wants to go to Florida then go but your kids are staying right here with you.
2007-01-17 18:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely not let him take the children. You may have one heck of a custody battle then if he is thinking of leaving you. He may end up with custody if you let him take them
2007-01-17 18:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with free_angel!!!!!!
2007-01-17 19:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋