i dont know what to do ok me and a friend jake* are closer than close he is dating kem* and he said he will do whatever it takes to stay with her. but he said i was amazing and ausome all the time before kim. and i loooooooooove him so much my life is based on him, i used to go to his house all the time. i am fat 204 and geeky i need tips on how to dress and what make-up is ok, oh and hair because i cut it short and it is even but there is not much i know what to do with it. please help.
2007-01-17 10:35:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Makeup
Honey.... listen I know it is amazing to feel pretty and dolled-up, but if this boy really likes you he wouldn't be with this other girl. It seems like you are hard on yourself for not being perfect but don't worry about that! Be who you are right now because everything seems to get strange when you try to be someone you aren't and then for the most part guys get wierd and have a hard time around you because of the changes...
2007-01-17 10:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure that you aren't trying to change yourself into what someone else or society thinks is pretty; I'm not saying that you are, but just make sure that what you wear and what you do with your face/hair is for YOU, not a guy. I heard that there is a book out from What Not to Wear that talks about different body types, I guess you might try that.
If you wear makeup, don't overdose; use some concealor if you have uneven spots or zits, a powder to make it stay, some blush on the apples of your cheeks, etc. You might try playing up your eyes and keeping your lips neutral, or bringing attention to your mouth and keeping your eyes simple and neutral so they don't compete; the worst is when you try to do too much and use colors that don't work for you. Don't cover up your face unnecessarily! :)
Try cute hair accessories, like a couple pretty bobbi pins, or maybe use a color glaze that lasts for like 6-12 shampoos if you want a bit of a change. If your hair is bobbed, blow dry it really well and use a finishing product to make it extra-shiny. If it is curly, use a good scrunching mousse to define it. If it is really really short, take some defining product and create a good shape/pattern. Talk with a hair stylist for a few minutes for suggestions.
If "Jake" said that you were amazing and if he was being serious, then he obviously values you. But don't get your heart set on something in case it does not happen. Believe me, I know how you feel, but you have to work with what life gives you. Just be yourself, know that you are important to people, and take care of yourself for your OWN sake. When you are comfortable with yourself, that is when you will seem approachable to others the most. Best of luck!
2007-01-24 05:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said you are awesome and amazing. Your life should not be based on him though. You are awesome and amazing without him. Fat and geeky ...I can feel that way sometimes too. Look at your body and write down your likes and dislikes about it. Once you figure those out, then we can help you figure out the clothes to wear to accent the good, and hide the bad. Make up ..go to any mall large department store, get a free makeup done. You do not buy anything, yet they do want to sell. Then get another one done at another counter with another makeup line. When you see in the mirror what you like on you then go with this line of makeup. Always have a makeover once a year to make sure you have the same skin or need a new color or a different line of makeup. Do all of this for yourself, never for someone else. If you hate make up, still try it. If you hate the way you dress, and really don't care, still try to learn it. After you learn about makeup and dressing you can choose which you like better and when you want to do it. Go shopping with girlfriends, and watch the television alertly and see what they wear and if you like it? Then go find it cheaper at a discount store :) Good Luck. Oh, if one guy thinks your great, then wait until 10 guys feel you are great...and not based on your looks.
2007-01-17 19:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by susanmarie1900 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you love him but, there is a chance that if you come on too strong to him he may sense that it's not worth losing his girlfriend over and just dump you as a friend. I would not risk it at this point. I would just stay friends and be there for him and in the meantime, workout and eat right. It's possible that he might want a girl who takes care of her body and will live a long life and not have health problems down the road. Even if he does think you're amazing on the inside, he might not be attracted to your outside. That's just what I think though. Good luck.
2007-01-25 17:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by goturanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't let your entire life revolve around any man. Change the way you think about yourself. You put yourself down so badly. The best make up and out fit your money could by you is a balanced diet. I know. I'm heavier than you. My goal is to be your weight. I'm happily married. My husband says I'm beautiful. He says that all the time. I feel better having a balanced diet. Frozen dinners offer this. A good calorie count and so forth. You will feel better about yourself. When you refocus and he is not the big gist thing in your life any more...then no telling who you will meet. Who knows you might not have time for him.
2007-01-24 21:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by fullnessofjoy1959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you to are alone make a proposition to see if he'll go for it.
2007-01-25 16:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by LENA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋