Why should I get a job?My husband makes$50,000 a year, we only have to pay for the usual bills in our house?

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Also we have to pay car note and ins., and Child Support.We live in one of his mom's houses and we don't have to pay rent.All our bills total about $1,200/per month, and we have plenty left over for what ever. And, he blows money on whatever he wants, and leaves me with know money at all. I don't really need money except to get gas for the car and things we need around the house that we run out of.
We are going to have a baby in May of this year. He told me that I needed to get a job asap because he can't afford to pay all the bills and let me stay at home any more. He was alright with it when I stopped working before I got pregnant. And he isn't letting me alone about it either. He doesn't drink, or do drugs, but he has really expinsive hobbies that we have talked about, but he wont stop buying the stuff for the hobbies. Why do I need to get a job?

I supported him For two tears so he could sit on his *** And do nothing but say "i'm trying to find a job". All the while he was busy playing video games. He has childish hobbies. Dungens and Dragons, Magic the gathering, collecting miniatures,and Computer games. I don't expect him to support me forever, but childcare is expinsive around here and I would only be working to pay for that.

And for Peri, don't assume you know me. I am not lazy, I have another child and have held a job for more than three years. I raised my first with no help from anyone. So, you can continue to make an @ss of yourself if you like people. I only want opinion's from you.

Oh yeah, we don't mooch off his mom. She lets us live their and all we have to do is take care of the house and pay the taxes and house insurance. I had two miscarriages while working. I do plan on getting a job when it is time to. I have tried looking for a jo, no one wants to hire a pregnant person around here, and I have to go and get my child from another town every Tuesday and bring her back and forth every other weekend. I don't just sit around and do nothing all day, I help his grandmother with her rent properties.

Answer 1

He understands that babies cost money, and even on his salary with current spending habits you two won't have money to support this kid!

Getting a job is going to do more for you than just make more money. You keep saying that you really don't NEED more money, but this is the time to start saving for your child's future and your retirement.

Also it's a way to get out of the house. I don't know what you do all day, but getting out of the house is going to do everyone some good.

Also--are you going to live in his mom's house forever or do you two plan on BUYING a house on your own?

You two need to have a serious talk and wake-up to your money habits. Right now you're living paycheck to paycheck instead of saving and using money wisely. What expensive habits does your husband have? You two need to work this out TOGETHER.

Answer 2

I'm in a similar situation, however it has never been my intention to not work but at the same time I feel that if you are pregnant and money is becoming an issue when the baby comes its going to be an even bigger issue, but I would suggest to your husband that if he works a second job or find a job making more money he would be able to afford the bills so you can stay at home with your baby. Things happened and I ended up not working, it was not planned but I had the opportunity to spend atleast 2.5 years with my son and he'll be turning 3 in a couple months, it was so worth it so don't let your husband pressure you into getting a job especially not now, don't feel bad either its his job to provide for you and if bills are adding up that's his problem to solve he can give up his hobbies or not but you let him figure it out and you take care of yourself and your baby. Eventually you might want to get a part-time job or something so you can have money for yourself, but being with my son has been worth going without as far as I am concerned.

Answer 3

It sounds a little selfish to me, that he wants you to get a job now that you are pregnant. Basically he doesn't want having the expense of a baby to interferre in him being able to pay for his hobbies. It's going to be difficult for you to find someone to hire a pregnant woman anyway. Did you two decide together to have a baby or was this baby a surprise to you both? You didn't just decide to get pregnant on your own without consulting him did you? After you have the baby you should decide together when it's time for you to go back to work. I suggest you do at some point because it doesn't sound to me like you and your hubby have good communication and if you don't start having that you will end up in a divorce and you will need a job.

Answer 4

What if he said screw it and made you pay for every thing?? It gets really old and sooner or later he will realize how much he is missing out on because he has to pay all the bills--it is cheaper if you only have to pay your own way--quit being lazy and get a job!!!---and I'm sure you are going to say " but I clean the house and--blah blah blah!!" so what !!-I clean and cook and do chores as does my wife and we both work 40 plus hrs a week!! Besides how lame is it that your having a kid and still live w/ Mommy!! get a life!!Good example!! He deserves his expensive hobbies if he's paying for a free-loader!! Why dose it seem that all the women answering this question are being selfish??? My wife and I are getting ready for our child and she is going to take her maternity leave to be home w/ it but she is not planning on not working anymore-it seems that a lot of the people that have answered your question seem to think that it is O.K. to put the responsibility of raising a child --which will cost you a lot more then he makes at the time-and paying bills on someone else shoulders --that could be why the divorce rate is so high-isn't a marriage a commitment by both people???

Answer 5

I agree with you completely, you should not have to get a job right now. After all, you are having HIS BABY!! In just a few months. Maybe when your child gets old enough to go to daycare or have someone you trust a lot to baby sit, go back to school and learn a trade. Get a career started and get all the schooling you can get so you can support your child by yourself if it comes to that. This is so obscured that he would want you to go to work now!! But typical of a spoiled man. He has his toys, lives on his moms property, blows his money instead of saving when he could be. One of these days his kids are going to want to go to college and he will have to sell his little toys to send them! Yes, you need a job, yes you need a career, and you need to start stashing away money while you got it. If you don't look out for yourself and your child, nobody else will. Sorry honey, that's Life!!

Answer 6

He is bringing in the money, why should he give up any of his hobbies. Yes I agree with him there is no reason that you dont have a job. He is concerned about the baby coming and wants to provide for that child. However a budjet should be made and he shouldnt be spending his money like crazy exspecially with a baby on the way. You need to sit down with this man and have a serious talk with him. Both of you have good points and they need to be addressed.

Answer 7

it sounds like he is trying to get out of taking care of you and this child that ya have coming on the way. You should get a job and stop depending on him cuz if he decides to leave you one day and take everything than you need to have something to fall back on especially with a baby. And you said he can help pay all the bills so as his wife and partner you should be will be contribute to this marriage. as a women you need to be independent and make your own money and when thing start going back you can have your own money and security.

Answer 8

It supply you with more financial freedom. I find that depending on someone else is not a good way to live,but if you are married and pregnant you guys should sit down and have a really serious talk. Also if you are pregnant, you dont really have that many job options so you guys need to talk about that as well.

Answer 9

#1 Your right and your hubby is so wrong!!!

#2 How dare your husband tell you to get a job when YOUR pregnant AND the baby is due in May!!!! He CAN support you he just wants to WASTE money on things that dont even matter. How about him taking you out on a date? Or how about saving some money for the baby thats coming?

#3 HE NEEDS to be the one to STOP ALL of his expensive hobbies! I mean hello!! Doesnt he UNDERSTAND how much money it costs to have a baby?? Diapers alone are about $20! He has a family to support and you are going to NEED that money.

#4 COMMUNICATE with him that he has a child on the way and his hobbies are going to have to stop. He is going to be a father and being a parent is a full time job in itself. Just because he has all that leftover money doesn't mean that he can blow it on what he wants to.

#5 You need to tell him that his married to YOU not his hobbies! Family always comes first, Your his wife for goodness sake! Has he forgotten that!!! Talk to him!

You need to stand up for yourself and stop taking his BS.

Answer 10

Maybe to be an equal partner in your marriage?? What a conecpt. You should've made it clear when you got married you expected him to support you forever. What will you do if he dies in ten years and you have no job skills and no experience? You better take out a ton of life insurance on him if you expect never to work a day in your life. You can't even get a part time job? How lazy are you? Good luck Peg Bundy.