Suicide/Depression?

Question

I'm 13 (Nearly 14) and I really feel depressed. I feel guilty for something very wrong I've been doing, but since then I've stopped. I've told my mom that I feel I have nothing to look forward too. She's taking me to talk to someone tommorow and to get some anti-depressents. I'm really sick of feeling this way and she doesn't understand. I'm starting to think the easiest way out is running away or something, not nessecarily suicide. Anyways, is there any adice? I'm through with talking to counsellors, I've tried talking to my parents. Nothings clicking. Please DO NOT give me that cop out saying that I need professional help. What can I do indvidually to help this?

Guys, remember, the doctors aren't just going to hand me the pills, I will be talked to for a bit, and it's up to them to decide If I'm in that state of mind that requires them. Anyways, please, I cannot talk anymore, I've got to do this on my own. What can you do for that?

Answer 1

I just bought my son a book called Life 101 Everything We Wish We learned About Life In School - But Didn't by Peter McWilliams. (found it at Barnes & Noble) He has been depressed, angry, and generally uphappy. He has been reading it the last couple of days and said it really has helped. You may just need a new perspective on life. You have to realize that life is a journey and we all make mistakes, and you can feel better if you try a little self improvement. Is there anything you enjoy doing. When I am feeling bad, I cook. I know that sounds corny but it really relaxes me, and I love to watch everyone enjoy what I have made. I hope some of this helps.

Answer 2

Well, I don't know what your mom thinks anti-depressants will do, but, for someone your age, anti-depressants can increase thoughts of suicide. This wrong thing that you've been doing has obviously made you very upset with yourself. I understand your annoyance with counselors. I've had quite a few counselors in my time, and very few of them know what they're talking about.
To try to solve your problem, you must explore the very root of the problem, which sounds like the wrong thing you've done. Ask questions like, "why did I do this?" "how could I have acted differently?" "what are the chances I'll continue doing it/do it again?" When you can answer these questions, then you can hope to find peace (for a while). Don't forget, humans are allowed to make mistakes. No matter how much pressure is put on you to be perfect, it isn't going to happen. We are all flawed. However, taking the 'easiest way out' is never a good option. If you always chose the easiest way, you'd never learn or grow.
One last thing: there is nothing unforgivable but despair. If you despair, you cannot forgive yourself, and you're need your own forgiveness and acceptance more than anyone else's.

Answer 3

Give this expert a chance. And don't feel alone. A great many teens feel seriously depressed. (I did.) And a lot of folks work past it. (I did.)

Can you think of something you do that while you're doing it you're not depressed? When I was a teenager, it was painting. If possible, engage yourself more in something you love to do, whether it's hanging out with friends, listening to music, (NOT depressing music!) or sports, walking with your dog, or whatever. Do stuff with friends and other people outside of school as much as possible. Don't isolate yourself.

If there is nothing in particular you enjoy doing, my suggestion is to start trying one new thing a week, or every other week. Just try something. If you hate it, no big deal, don't do it again. This is just a search for something you love to do.

And this one sounds goofy, but it's powerful. Force yourself to smile. This is surprisingly helpful. Just fake it. First fake a couple of smiles a day, and gradually do it more and more often.

Observe what happy people do, and imitate them. That sounds goofy, too, but it's helpful.

Get outside at least 10 minutes a day.

Could you have SAD? Seasonal Affective Disorder? This is a result of the long winter and inadequate sunlight. There are special lights you can use to perk up your mood.

Mainly DO STUFF. Don't give in to the urge to be idle. Get up and be active. Start with just one thing a day and build up.

Answer 4

I know how you feel. I have tried to seek professional help haltingly. And when I do I get the typical rat race. Explain the sae thing to three different people then talk to someone who doesn't know waht you're going through. I have survived from luck and have learned ways to deal with it. If you are feeling really bad, it isn't as easy to persuade yourself as people feel.

A few tricks I use to feel a bit better are things like taking care of myself. I normally never wear makeup (I don't believe in it) but when I feel bad I put some on, make sure I bathe regularly, cut my nails, and so on. Just pamper yourself really. It's hard to get motivated, but gets easier as time goes on. Also cleaning your living area may help. If I live in a dump, it really affects me.

Depression sometimes happens when our conditions are just a little bit off. Try getting more time outside, or since it is winter, get some daylight corrected lighting. They aren't too expensive, under $15, and flourecents make your energy bill cheaper. I like to eat oily fish, like sardines, I read somewhere that it helps. Whether that's placebo or not, I don't care, it works for me. Just experiment and find what works for you.

After a while you will be able to detect your moods and what causes what. For example, I know to stay away from fiction books when I'm feeling gloomy, or else I wake up only so I can read and life is just so dull otherwise. Also, drugs are a bad combination if your down. It's up to you whether they are for you or not, but I know they set my mood haywire if I take them when im vulnerable or I take too uch at once.

I hope this helps and isn't a cop(lol, oink) out answer. If you feel that doctors can help you, go ahead with that, I just know they don't work for me. If you feel down and need someone to talk to just IM me or email me. You can get that info from my profile.

Also, I'm sure you already know, but running away is not a good answer. I know from personal experience that once you start it is hard to stop.

Answer 5

You are way to young to be feeling this way about your life. What was it so horrible to put this state of mind in your life? Write this all down on a sheet of paper starting with your life. Count down the mistakes... you have made. Have you got friends that are close to you? That you could talk to on this subject? I will not pry into your life. No matter how quilty you are feeling about what you have done. You have stated that you stopped.. So that is going in the right direction. Pills arent a cure all. You know what you have to do. Talk to mom about what you did. Get it all out in the open. You have to in order to have a clear mind. Suicide isnt the answer either.. Just will bring grief to your parents and they will in turn be beating themselves up for not helping you more. The bottom line is you have to want to help yourself. When you do realize that you will get better. Talk is cheap.. so what have you got to lose ? Get it out in the open. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

maybe tried talking to a close friend or someone you can trust... tell her/him what's bothering you... sometimes you just need to open up, really talk about a problem and someone who is willing to listen and not judge you.... or maybe write it on the paper... what you feel...sometimes it helps too.
don't even consider suicide cause it's very selfish act on my opinion.

Answer 7

dont kill your self, that wont fix any thing my brother killed him self no to long ago and my family is still screwed up from it, since your going to a counselor ask them this question. theyd be able to help you

Answer 8

PRAY TO GOD,and try to do the things you love again so you are not depress anymore.I think that happiness and joy are the actuall real cure for depression and anti-sepressents don't actually do anything anyways.just tell her that you are not thinking to kill yourself, just to run away or something.just tell her what you told me and you will be fine.

Answer 9

If you tell me exacly what wrong you have done, I maybe able to help you. Please without the correct info we cannot help you my dear friend..